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WE WAS BRUNG UP PROPER !

Posted in America, Britain, British Humour, Canada, Children, England, Modern World, News, Senior Citizen, Teens with tags , , , , on 14/09/2015 by floroy1942

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL THOSE WHO WERE BORN IN THE 1930’s 1940’s, 50’s, and 60’s!
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos…They took aspirin, ate blue cheese, raw egg products, loads of bacon and processed meat, tuna from a can, and didn’t get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer. Then after that trauma, our baby cots were covered with bright coloured lead-based paints.

1We had no child-proof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.
As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.
We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle.
Take away food was limited to fish and chips, no pizza shops, McDonalds, KFC, Subway or Nandos…
Even though all the shops closed at 6.00pm and didn’t open on a Sunday, somehow we didn’t starve to death!
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.
We could collect old drink bottles and cash them in at the corner store and buy Toffees, Gobstoppers, Bubble Gum and some bangers to blow up frogs with.
We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren’t overweight because……..WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!
2We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.
We would spend hours building our go-carts out of old prams and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. We built tree houses and dens and played in river beds with matchbox cars.
We did not have PlayStation’s, Nintendo Wii , X-boxes, no video games at all, no 999 channels on SKY no video/dvd films, no mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms……….WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no Lawsuits from these accidents.

Only girls had pierced ears!

We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever.

You could only buy Easter Eggs and Hot Cross Buns at Easter time…

We were given air guns and catapults for our 10th birthdays,

We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!
Mum didn’t have to go to work to help dad make ends meet because we didn’t need to keep up with the Jones’s!

3Not everyone made the rugby/football/cricket/netball team. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!! Getting into the team was based on MERIT

Our teachers used to hit us with canes and gym shoes and throw the blackboard rubber at us if they thought we weren’t concentrating .
We can string sentences together and spell and have proper conversations because of a good, solid three R’s education.
Our parents would tell us to ask a stranger to help us cross the road.
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of……..They actually sided with the law!

4Our parents didn’t invent stupid names for their kids like ‘Kiora’ and ‘Blade’ and ‘Ridge’ and ‘Vanilla’ and ‘Tiger’

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW TO DEAL WITH IT ALL !

And if YOU are one of them! CONGRATULATIONS!
You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good.

My thanks to the anonymous writer and the friend who sent it to me through the e-mail.

‘Til next time.

Roy.

The UN Human Rights Committee Should Mind It’s Own Bloody Business

Posted in America, Britain, Child Abuse, Child Discipline, European Union, News, Parenting, Teen alcohol abuse, Teen Violence, Teens with tags , , , , on 25/07/2015 by floroy1942

I was angered yesterday when I read that the U.N. HRC is telling the British Government to ban all smacking of children as a form of discipline. The commission was ‘surprised’ to hear that corporal punishment had not already been banned in the country.

UNHRCThe report says,”The state party should take practical steps, including through legislative measures where appropriate, to put an end to corporal punishment in all settings, including the home, throughout (the) United Kingdom. It should encourage non-violent forms of discipline as alternatives to corporal punishment, and conduct public information campaigns to raise awareness about its harmful effects.”

Are these people living on the same planet as the rest of us? I would like to know what forms of ‘none violent’ punishments they think will work with todays British children.

So UNHRC! How Do You Handle This Little Devil?

So UNHRC! How Do You Handle This Little Devil?

In Britain these days if you tell a child not to do something they take no notice, or in many cases tell you to ‘F’ off! So what are you supposed to do in such a situation? Tie them to a chair and lecture them on good manners and doing as they are told? Don’t make me laugh! I rather think that many of the idiots who come out with this garbage don’t have any children themselves, or if they do, they are brought up by a Nanny because the parents are too busy pontificating to do it themselves.

It is a totally different scenario from when I was a child in the forties. Children in general were well-behaved, they were respectful, honest and did as they were told by their parents because they knew that if they didn’t they would get a smack. Very few got into trouble with the law, and if they did it was for silly things that kids do as a prank.

It is a sad fact that we currently have a ‘lost’ generation of teens and young people who really do not know where they fit in in society because they have not been brought up correctly. Very often, if you want to know where your child is today, go to their room and you will find them in front of the computer or on their smart phone trading nonsense with others on Facebook or the like.

Kids Playing In The 1950's

Kids Playing In The 1950’s

What happened to the days when young kids went out to play with others instead of just lounging around?

These days, everywhere you look you will see youth on their phone, walking down the street or at a table in a cafe. But, take away this essential apparatus and they wander like mindless sheep not knowing where to go or what to do. In our local shopping centre I have lost count of the number of people who have almost walked straight into me because their whole concentration was on texting someone on the phone.

 On The Booze Already?

Nine Or Ten Years Old On The Booze Already?

Today many of the teens and youngsters are totally out of control, depending on drugs and/or alcohol for enjoyment. Some are extremely violent, fight on the streets, steal anything they can, and kill without remorse, so you try chastising them with words!

The British crime rate for those under thirty is the highest anywhere in Europe, and this includes rape, robbery and murder! Never in the history of this country has there been so many brutal killings, murders and rapes every year, a few carried out by young children, and many by teenagers.

In One Ear And Out The Other

In One Ear And Out The Other

So why do you think this is? Could it be that we have not sat our children down often enough and given them a good talking to on discipline as the UNHRC suggests, or could it be that children have quickly become aware that we can do next to nothing against them if they do wrong because of the anti-smacking laws. You work it out!

You cannot get away from the fact that if you wish to have a well-behaved child who turns into a responsible and hard-working adult you need discipline at a very early age. You can tell a child a hundred times and they will take no notice, but one small slap on the behind or back of the leg and they get the idea immediately. This system has worked for centuries, but now suddenly its a No! No!

I freely admit that in the past there have been parents who have gone over the limit with chastisement and have been excessively cruel to their children, but that is not a good enough reason to ban it altogether. Every day there are car accidents – should we therefore ban all cars??? No of course not, common sense has to prevail. Wherever there are cases of child abuse go after the perpetrators but don’t ban all forms of discipline!

On The Times I had It At School, It Stung For A Short Time But NEVER Did Me Any Harm.

On The Times I Had It At School, It Stung For A Short Time But NEVER Did Me Any Harm.

During my childhood I had the cane from the Headmaster a couple of times, and my step-dad gave me the slipper across the backside a good few times for misdemeanors. It did me no harm, but taught me never to do it again.

Later in life when I brought up my own son and daughter I used proper discipline from very early on. In the beginning I found with my daughter for example that a very light slap on her leg and a stern look was enough to warn her not to do something. By the time she was three I never had the need to touch her. If I told her not to do something she didn’t because she knew I meant what I said. My son took a little longer, (boy’s will be boy’s) but with a few light slaps to the legs he did as he was told.

I am happy to say they both grew up to be exemplary adults, and never got into trouble or did drugs or alcohol.

My wife and I started with them very young and they quickly learned to do as they were told without fuss, and most importantly, without resorting to any violence. It is essential to start as soon as they are able to understand, but keep the punishments very mild. They will learn very quickly and then a warning look is all that is needed.

Heed The Message

Heed The Message

This business of sitting your child down in front of you and having a conversation with them about what they have done wrong is pure rubbish. There is only one system that makes the necessary impression on a child’s mind and that is a slap on the leg or behind. When they actually feel it the message goes home. Anything else is a waste of time.

I am however deeply against those who go too far with children. I believe that those who go beyond a mild slap should be punished to the full extent of the law. There is no excuse to brutalize children for whatever reason.

These namby pamby do-gooders need to know the value of proper discipline with children to ensure they grow up to be worthwhile members of society, and not clogging up our prison system.

Roy.

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