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Would You Call Your Child Pilot Inspektor?

Posted in America, Britain, Child Abuse, Children, Europe, Insanity, Modern World, News, Parenting with tags , , , , on 30/08/2016 by floroy1942

It seems we are heading into the realms of dumb, sheer stupidity when it comes to naming our children these days. I just read an article where some of the most ridiculous names ever invented have been given to celebrity children. Who are these people trying to kid?

Jason Lee With Pilot Inspektor

Jason Lee With Pilot Inspektor

There are better ways of getting your name in the papers than giving your children such idiotic names. Some of them may sound cute when the child is still a baby, but what happens when they get to schools age, of even worse, when they are adults. I would be utterly ashamed to have to tell, for example, the tax man or a prospective boss that my name is Pilot Inspektor. Have people totally lost it these days?

Here are some of the other names that celebrities have given their children:

Blue Ivy Carter (Beyonce and Jay Z)

 Little River Rocket joins siblings Daisy Boo, Petal Blossom, Poppy Honey and Buddy Bear

Little River Rocket joins siblings Daisy Boo, Petal Blossom, Poppy Honey and Buddy Bear

River Rocket (Jamie and Jools Oliver)

North and Saint West (Kim and Kanye West)

Jagger Snow (Ashlee Simpson and Evan Ross)

Rocket Zot (Sam Worthington and Lara Bingle Worthington)

Sparrow James Midnight (Nicole Richie and Joel Madden)

Apollo Bowie Flynn (Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale)

Maple Sylvie (Jason Bateman)

Apple (Chris Martin and Gwyneth Paltrow)

Sailor Gene (Liv Tyler and Dave Gardner)

Cricket and Birdie - Two Sisters

Cricket and Birdie – One of Two Sisters

Cricket and Birdie (Busy Philipps and Marc Silverstein)

Rosalind Arusha Arkadina Altalune Florence Thurman-Busson (Uma Thurman and Arpad Busson)

Reign Disick (Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick)

Banjo Patrick Taylor (Rachel Griffiths)

Briar Rose (Rachel Bilson and Hayden Christensen)

Bingham ‘Bing’ Hawn Bellamy (Kate Hudson and Matt Bellamy)

Buzz Michelangelo Fletcher

Buzz Michelangelo Fletcher

Buzz Michelangelo Fletcher (Tom Fletcher and Giovanna Fletcher)

Titan Jewell (Kelly Rowland and Timothy Witherspoon)

Bodhi Ransom (Megan Fox and Brian Austin Green)

Blue Ivy Carter (Beyonce and Jay Z)

I can just imagine some of these poor kids introducing themselves to their new friends, “Hi my name is Rocket Zot Worthington but you can call me Rocket!”, an utterance that would be swiftly followed by howls of laughter.

I have no idea how this stupid craze started, but I am sure the kids will regret it when they get older. They have my sympathy.

Roy.

 

 

The UN Human Rights Committee Should Mind It’s Own Bloody Business

Posted in America, Britain, Child Abuse, Child Discipline, European Union, News, Parenting, Teen alcohol abuse, Teen Violence, Teens with tags , , , , on 25/07/2015 by floroy1942

I was angered yesterday when I read that the U.N. HRC is telling the British Government to ban all smacking of children as a form of discipline. The commission was ‘surprised’ to hear that corporal punishment had not already been banned in the country.

UNHRCThe report says,”The state party should take practical steps, including through legislative measures where appropriate, to put an end to corporal punishment in all settings, including the home, throughout (the) United Kingdom. It should encourage non-violent forms of discipline as alternatives to corporal punishment, and conduct public information campaigns to raise awareness about its harmful effects.”

Are these people living on the same planet as the rest of us? I would like to know what forms of ‘none violent’ punishments they think will work with todays British children.

So UNHRC! How Do You Handle This Little Devil?

So UNHRC! How Do You Handle This Little Devil?

In Britain these days if you tell a child not to do something they take no notice, or in many cases tell you to ‘F’ off! So what are you supposed to do in such a situation? Tie them to a chair and lecture them on good manners and doing as they are told? Don’t make me laugh! I rather think that many of the idiots who come out with this garbage don’t have any children themselves, or if they do, they are brought up by a Nanny because the parents are too busy pontificating to do it themselves.

It is a totally different scenario from when I was a child in the forties. Children in general were well-behaved, they were respectful, honest and did as they were told by their parents because they knew that if they didn’t they would get a smack. Very few got into trouble with the law, and if they did it was for silly things that kids do as a prank.

It is a sad fact that we currently have a ‘lost’ generation of teens and young people who really do not know where they fit in in society because they have not been brought up correctly. Very often, if you want to know where your child is today, go to their room and you will find them in front of the computer or on their smart phone trading nonsense with others on Facebook or the like.

Kids Playing In The 1950's

Kids Playing In The 1950’s

What happened to the days when young kids went out to play with others instead of just lounging around?

These days, everywhere you look you will see youth on their phone, walking down the street or at a table in a cafe. But, take away this essential apparatus and they wander like mindless sheep not knowing where to go or what to do. In our local shopping centre I have lost count of the number of people who have almost walked straight into me because their whole concentration was on texting someone on the phone.

 On The Booze Already?

Nine Or Ten Years Old On The Booze Already?

Today many of the teens and youngsters are totally out of control, depending on drugs and/or alcohol for enjoyment. Some are extremely violent, fight on the streets, steal anything they can, and kill without remorse, so you try chastising them with words!

The British crime rate for those under thirty is the highest anywhere in Europe, and this includes rape, robbery and murder! Never in the history of this country has there been so many brutal killings, murders and rapes every year, a few carried out by young children, and many by teenagers.

In One Ear And Out The Other

In One Ear And Out The Other

So why do you think this is? Could it be that we have not sat our children down often enough and given them a good talking to on discipline as the UNHRC suggests, or could it be that children have quickly become aware that we can do next to nothing against them if they do wrong because of the anti-smacking laws. You work it out!

You cannot get away from the fact that if you wish to have a well-behaved child who turns into a responsible and hard-working adult you need discipline at a very early age. You can tell a child a hundred times and they will take no notice, but one small slap on the behind or back of the leg and they get the idea immediately. This system has worked for centuries, but now suddenly its a No! No!

I freely admit that in the past there have been parents who have gone over the limit with chastisement and have been excessively cruel to their children, but that is not a good enough reason to ban it altogether. Every day there are car accidents – should we therefore ban all cars??? No of course not, common sense has to prevail. Wherever there are cases of child abuse go after the perpetrators but don’t ban all forms of discipline!

On The Times I had It At School, It Stung For A Short Time But NEVER Did Me Any Harm.

On The Times I Had It At School, It Stung For A Short Time But NEVER Did Me Any Harm.

During my childhood I had the cane from the Headmaster a couple of times, and my step-dad gave me the slipper across the backside a good few times for misdemeanors. It did me no harm, but taught me never to do it again.

Later in life when I brought up my own son and daughter I used proper discipline from very early on. In the beginning I found with my daughter for example that a very light slap on her leg and a stern look was enough to warn her not to do something. By the time she was three I never had the need to touch her. If I told her not to do something she didn’t because she knew I meant what I said. My son took a little longer, (boy’s will be boy’s) but with a few light slaps to the legs he did as he was told.

I am happy to say they both grew up to be exemplary adults, and never got into trouble or did drugs or alcohol.

My wife and I started with them very young and they quickly learned to do as they were told without fuss, and most importantly, without resorting to any violence. It is essential to start as soon as they are able to understand, but keep the punishments very mild. They will learn very quickly and then a warning look is all that is needed.

Heed The Message

Heed The Message

This business of sitting your child down in front of you and having a conversation with them about what they have done wrong is pure rubbish. There is only one system that makes the necessary impression on a child’s mind and that is a slap on the leg or behind. When they actually feel it the message goes home. Anything else is a waste of time.

I am however deeply against those who go too far with children. I believe that those who go beyond a mild slap should be punished to the full extent of the law. There is no excuse to brutalize children for whatever reason.

These namby pamby do-gooders need to know the value of proper discipline with children to ensure they grow up to be worthwhile members of society, and not clogging up our prison system.

Roy.

Raising A Generation Of Whimps!

Posted in America, Britain, Child Discipline, Children, English Schools, Modern World, News, Teen alcohol abuse, Teens, UK with tags , , , , on 07/06/2015 by floroy1942
Cheltenham Ladies' College

Cheltenham Ladies’ College

I could hardly believe what I was reading when a news report said that Cheltenham Ladies’ College, a girls school in Cheltenham, was considering dropping homework for students over the next five years because it was causing them depression. Instead they would get weekly meditation classes.

I have always maintained that if you pay proper attention in school, instead of, for example, writing text messages under the desk, you will learn all you need to learn. But, I do have to say that teachers today leave a lot to be desired in their methods. In my day, if you didn’t understand something you held up your hand and the teacher would explain until it was as clear as glass. Nowadays, many teachers don’t take the time to explain things to those pupils who don’t fully understand, and that is presuming they know enough about their subject to be able to.

Sir Anthony Seldon, Headmaster At Wellington College In Berkshire

Sir Anthony Seldon, Headmaster At Wellington College In Berkshire

Sir Anthony Seldon, headmaster at Wellington College in Berkshire, said in an interview that “mental health is a massive problem in Britain in schools and universities”. He said it was good the school was doing something about the problem, but doubted if banishing homework was the answer. He went on, “Life is stressful. Adult life is stressful, so unless we teach them to cope with that we’re not going to prepare them to cope in the adult world. That’s what schools are about – helping children learn to become adults, to learn to take responsibility themselves, rather than pampering young people.” Oh how right you are Sir!

Many people today are unable to handle even a little stress, and that is mostly due to their upbringing, or more likely, lack of it. Most children today are spoiled rotten by their parents, but when they get introduced to life’s problems they have no clue on how to handle it, and before anyone mentions it, I know there are exceptions, but the majority of youth can’t handle real life when they grow up because they have not been shown how to.

Depression

Depression

The main problem with kids today is that they get everything handed to them on a plate. When they cannot get what they want, like a laptop or the latest mobile phone they sulk and get depressed. Most often they cry  “All my friends have one. Why can’t I?” This philosophy has many drawbacks, for firstly it does not teach them the value of anything, and secondly can cause the deep depression that so often leads to drugs, and/or alcohol abuse.

Headteacher Eve Jardine-Young of the Cheltenham School said the average age at which depression was first diagnosed had fallen from 29 in the 1960s to 15-and-a-half early this century. She said, “What we’ve been reflecting on a lot in the last few years are the big national trends and international trends in the worsening states of adolescent mental health. We’ve created this epidemic of anxiety for ourselves as a society, and if our obligation as educators is to try to the best of our ability to set young people up as best we can for whatever the future may hold, then to ignore this whole area or to trivialize it is really irresponsible.”

This Is No Way To Escape Facing Real Life

Binge-Drinking – This Is No Way To Escape Facing Real Life

Personally, I doubt that stopping homework is going to cure the problem, for all it will do is make these youngsters less likely to use their brains and increase their desire for ‘an easy life’. Young people today have no idea whatsoever of what they will have to face when they eventually leave school and have to work for a living.

This is one reason for the drug epidemic we have today. Instead of having the mental strength to face what life throws at us they turn to the only escape they know, drugs, or in many other cases, alcohol. Go through many towns and cities in Britain on a Friday or Saturday night, and you will find many teens comatose on the pavement or getting into a fight on the streets. For them alcohol is an escape from the problems of living in today’s society, but in the long term it does not help.

Teachers Need To Interact More With Their Pupils

Teachers Need To Interact More With Their Pupils

As a parent it is your responsibility to educate your children in such a way that they can understand that life does not hand them everything they wish for. Naturally the schools are part of this process, for children need to know that they must work hard to get what they want, and it begins with a good education. Teachers must be able to spot those having trouble with the lesson material and do all they can to make them understand.

If the children/teenagers are getting depressed because they cannot handle homework then the answer is not to stop it, but to make them understand that it is an essential part of their education. It will make them think, and use their brains to come up with the correct answers.

Life As A Teen Is One Big Party - But Wait Until The Crunch Comes!

Life As A Teen Is One Big Party – But Wait Until The Crunch Comes!

If I went to work and was feeling somewhat depressed I would not expect my boss to say, “It’s OK Roy. Take a couple of days off until you feel better!” Ha! Fat chance of that happening. Life today is full of pitfalls and traps that can cause people to feel insecure, but you must have the mental strength to overcome these problems and move on. Something today’s generation seems to be lacking.

The sad thing is, as we move forward in time and these youngsters have children of their own, the problem will get even worse because they will have no idea on how to handle such a situation with their own children because their parents let them down.

It's Time For Parents To Take An Active Interest In Their Children

It’s Time For Parents To Take An Active Interest In Their Children

If you wish to bring a new life into the world then you must be prepared to guide them as they grow up, and teach them that life is not the proverbial ‘bowl of cherries’ by preparing them for the hardships of becoming an adult. Teach them to recognize right from wrong, teach them that to get anywhere in today’s world you must have knowledge and be ready to work hard. Most of all, teach them that drugs and alcohol are not an escape from life’s problems.

I think that unless something drastic is done to educate our children in the correct way, and prepare them properly for adulthood, we are headed for major problems in the future. May God help us all.

Roy.

Jihadists Plan Attack At A Royal Event

Posted in Al Quada, America, Britain, Children, Immigration, Islamic Revolution, Muslim, News, Parenting, Terrorism with tags , , , , on 24/03/2014 by floroy1942

Most people will be aware that since 9/11 the Muslim radicals like al Quada have changed tactics and moved away from terrorist bombing on western targets. For the last few years they have fermented trouble in many Middle East countries in an effort to gain a foothold there. Now they have changed tactics again and are luring young European Muslims to Syria where they are radicalized and taught how to make suicide vests and car bombs.

Foreign Jihadists In Training

Foreign Jihadists In Training

Currently there are 250 British Muslims back in the country who have returned from Syria after receiving training. It is a distinct possibility that they may take to heart what they have learnt and proceed with terrorists attacks here. France and Belgium have much the same problem.

Jihadists In Syria

Jihadists In Syria

Al Quada has a magazine called Inspire that is passed among militants and provides them with instructions. The current edition has revealed possible targets for bombers including attacks on the Queen and major football matches.

The Queen And Prince Phillip At Ascot

The Queen And Prince Phillip At Ascot

The magazine states: “In the beginning of summer we have Cheltenham, and [at] the end of summer we have Epsom, whereby horse races are attended by thousands from around the kingdom including the Queen,” writes the author, named as AQ chef. “You have soccer stadiums, especially during Premier League and FA Cup matches. They have worldwide live [sic] media coverage. The best time is after the final whistle, when huge crowds leave the stadium and celebrate around the entrances.”

Imagine A Car Bomb Among The Celebrating Fans

Imagine A Car Bomb Among The Celebrating Fans

On top of this, the magazine gives  instructions on how to detonate a car bomb, and advises would-be jihadists to detonate it outside luxury hotels such as The Savoy at around 10pm, when “high-profile targets” would be exiting.

MI5 and the Metropolitan Police counter-terrorism officers are taking this threat seriously and investigations are on-going. It can only be hoped that we can catch these people before something terrible happens.

Bless You Your Majesty - Forewarned Is For-armed

Bless You Your Majesty – Forewarned Is For-armed

Queen Elizabeth has served this nation with honour since 1953, and I for one would hate to see her the victim of these Muslim extremists. There can be little doubt that such an outrage could spark off an uprising against the Muslim population in this country that would have dire consequences.

Imagine This On Our Streets, But Against Muslims Across The Country

Imagine This On Our Streets, But Against Muslims Across The Country

There is already a massive undercurrent of dissatisfaction among the British population at the huge number of Muslim immigrants flocking to the UK, and the governments inability to shut the door. Suddenly the prophetic words of Enoch Powell from so many years ago could become reality.

Regents Park Primary School Birmingham

Regents Park Primary School Birmingham

Another perhaps even more worrying point is a clandestine attack by Muslim radicals currently taking place in our schools. According to reports, they have successfully taken over at least four schools in Birmingham, namely  Adderley Primary, Saltley School, Park View School and Regents Park Community Primary School. This has been accomplished by creating false allegations about school staff members to prompt their removal by school authorities. Once they have been sacked, they replace them with fundamentalist teachers, i.e. ones sympathetic to their cause. By doing this they have been able to turn the schools into religious academies with strong Islamic principles. The process would perhaps begin with girls being segregated from the boys in classes.

The Trojan Horse In Our Schools

The Trojan Horse In Our Schools

All this came to light when some letters were intercepted between two fundamentalists involved in the plot, one in Birmingham and one in Bradford. The whole project goes under the name of Project Trojan Horse and the letter is quoted as saying: “We have caused a great amount of organised disruption in Birmingham and as a result we now have our own academies and are on our way to getting rid of more head teachers and taking over their schools. Whilst sometimes the practices we use may not seem the correct way to do things you must remember this is a ‘jihad’ and as such all means possible to win the war is acceptable. We have an obligation to our children to fulfill our roles and ensure these schools are run on Islamic principles.”  The tactic seems to have been so successful in Birmingham that they now plan to move on to Bradford and Manchester.

Another Step For The Muslims

Another Step For The Muslims

It is clear the Muslim terrorists are not sitting on their hands but are planning to move into Britain in a way not expected. There can be little doubt that if you have a child at one of these schools it might be wise to check up on what is happening. While the majority of the children attending these schools are Muslim, they also teach ethnic English there. Either way, it is clear that if groups like al Quada are taking over the schooling of Muslim children in this country they will be turning them into radicals for their cause. Who is to say that America and other countries will not be next.

Beware Britain – The bell tolls for thee!

Roy.

‘Milking’ – The New Teen Craze.

Posted in Britain, Child Discipline, Children, England, Insanity, Modern World, Teen alcohol abuse, Teen Violence, Teens, UK, USA with tags , , on 05/12/2012 by floroy1942

To watch a video of some idiot pouring a pint of milk over his/her head makes me think that as a race we have finally lost all our marbles. ‘Milking’ is just the latest in a long line of crazy things that today’s youth seem to find ‘cool’, and to reach such depths I guess they must be bored out of their gourds. The following links will take you to some of these crazy stunts:

http://youtu.be/qtJPAv1UiAE

http://youtu.be/rObgXiQEV8g

This latest craze is as mind-numbing as ‘planking’ and posing as owls, but thankfully not as ridiculous as jumping from a fourth or fifth story balcony into a swimming pool below. This latter prank led to the deaths of many teenagers here in Spain who, while on holiday, thought it would be ‘cool’ but ended up splattered all over the tiles surrounding the pool. The following link will show you how dangerous this stunt is:

http://youtu.be/UJBWDFPgNQg

Teenagers have a lot to contend with these days I know, but most of their problems are centred around the fact that they have no real direction in their lives. For this I blame society, but mainly the parents. If you really care for your children, as a parent you are obligated to instill three basic rules into your kids: Respect – Honesty – Responsibility. Sadly today most if not all are sadly lacking. As a parent, try and remember the last time you had a heart-to-heart with your child about these three requirements for a responsible life style? Can’t remember – I’m not surprised!

Because these three basic principles are missing from teenagers today most have little or no respect, even for their parents let alone society. Their lives are so ‘directionless’ they do not know what is required of them. Its all about binge drinking, drugs and violence these days, and if your child is not involved in one or all of these they are usually tied to the computer. The period of going out and having a good time without getting ‘smashed’ or lost in drug haze has disappeared in the mist of time, probably never to return. Why is this? The simple answer is that the three basic requirements mentioned previously were never taught.

So where do we go from here? Good question – but one thing is sure, teenagers will continue their quest for the insane, zany and ridiculous because they have nothing better to do. Perhaps in a few years time the YouTube sensation of the year will be a video of some young teenager topping himself just for the sheer hell of it. Impossible, I don’t think so.

Roy.

Childrens Fairy Tales and Political Correctness

Posted in America, Britain, Children, England, Parenting, UK, USA with tags , , , , on 15/02/2012 by floroy1942

I really could not believe what I read today on Yahoo! It seems many of today’s parents do not tell their children traditional fairy stories because some scare them. It seems also that political correctness has struck at the fairy stories we all loved as children.

When questioned by TV channel Watch, one in five of the 2,000 parents questioned on the subject said that in some cases their little darlings were scared when Little Red Riding Hood was read to them because the Big Bad Wolf ate the grandmother. Others said they did not read Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs to their children because the term ‘Dwarf’ did not seem appropriate! Some would not read Cinderella because the idea of Cinderella being in the house doing housework all day was ‘outdated’! Goldilocks and the Three Bears was thought to ‘promote stealing’. The stories of Rumpelstiltskin and Rapunzel are considered inappropriate because they feature kidnapping and executions.

It would seem that most parents these days don’t even bother to tell their offspring fairy stories until they reach the age of five. The reason? The kids ask too many awkward questions!

I have to admit that I told my two children fairy stories from the time they were old enough to understand them, and they loved it. In fact I was blackmailed every evening, because they wouldn’t go to sleep without one. After listening to the stories they both quickly fell into a deep untroubled sleep. As you can imagine, it did not take long to go through all the regular tales and so I used to make them up as I went along. Thank goodness I never got asked to repeat a story from the week before!

Wow! Snow White Never Looked THAT Good When I Was A Kid!

Neither of them ever cried or had nightmares from the stories I told, which included Little Red Riding Hood, so I can only assume we are raising weak minded children these days, or the parents are not telling the stories as they should be told. Some of them have been around for over a hundred years and I never heard of them scaring children.

As to the farcical ‘political correct’ approach to fairy stories, the only thing I can say to all those parents is – Get a life and don’t be so childish!

Roy.

Why Are Britain’s Children Unhappy?

Posted in Britain, Child Discipline, Children, Primary Schools, UK, USA with tags , , , , , , on 15/01/2012 by floroy1942

I was quite amazed to read the other day that half a million children in the UK are unhappy. But then I sat for a while and thought about it, and my conclusion was that I am surprised the number is so low!!

An Unhappy Child - But Why?

Many will ask what the current generation have to complain about, and then compare the material things children have these days with what they had when they were growing up. Considering that we live in a hugely materialistic world these days, where owning an iPad, iPod, 46in. colour TV or computer is supposed to make one happy, it will come as a shock to most that this is not what makes for happy children. According to a report from The Children’s Society, who interviewed 30,000 children between the ages of eight and sixteen, it is a loving atmosphere at home that ranks the highest with our children.

It is often said by ‘people-in-the-know’ that the most important thing is a two-parent family to ensure a childs happiness. Well, the report proves them wrong. When you think about it, as a child where would you rather grow up, in a home where mum and dad are always arguing, or with just a mum (or dad) who loves you to bits?  I think the answer would be the same for everyone.

Mother and Child At Play

I personally do not like the idea of a one-parent family because I feel there should be balance in a child’s early life, and balance comes from receiving guidance from a mother and a father. Secondly, I have always felt that after childbirth, a woman’s place is in the home for at least the first five to six years of a child’s life, not out working. I know, I can hear the indignant snorts and guffaws from here as you think to yourself, we can’t afford it! The wife has to work or we can’t afford our holiday in Spain. I can only say, for the sake of your child’s well-being perhaps you should consider Blackpool for a couple of years.

Many will ask why such a thing is necessary, but to me it seems very important to always have at least one parent at home when they are young. How else can you teach your child right from wrong, what is required from them, and most important, discipline?

Typical Creche

It does no good to hand your child over to a virtual stranger at the local crèche every day and expect them to teach your child the essentials in life and how to behave. The mother, or alternatively the father, should be with the child every day at least until they start Primary School, for by that time you will have taught them how to behave, what is acceptable and what is not, and of course discipline. Chief among these things, a parent will have shown the child love and a caring attitude that is crucial to forming the future character of a child.

The report also highlighted a stable home as being highly beneficial to a child’s well-being. It does the child no good if a single mother changes her partner as often as she changes her underwear. Constant change within the family unit was found to be very detrimental, whereas a stable household was considered most beneficial, contributing much to a childs’ happiness.

Arguing? - The Child Feels It Too!

A surprising fact that came out of the survey is that children as young as eight fully understand what is going on when mum and dad discuss money problems in their presence, and it depresses them. Children can be surprisingly sensitive to their surroundings, and what is going on or being said in front of them. I believe that in the very young its more the tone of voice that gets through, especially when they don’t understand the words, and a few unguarded sentences in front of young children like “How on earth are we going to pay the TV licence next week” (desperation) gets picked up whether we want it to or not.

As children get older they start to worry about their looks, which often makes them unhappy. A young boy or girl with the infamous spots breaking out on their face will start to feel insecure, which leads to a general feeling of low self-esteem and unhappiness. Children like to be one of the herd, they like to belong to a group and feel valued within that group. If they have fewer clothes, gadgets, or less pocket-money than their friends they feel insecure and a reduced feeling of ‘belonging’ can lead to depression.

The Curse of Growing Up

Not quite being able to keep up with your ‘friends’ is also the best way of attracting bullies, which not so strangely, is another reason children today are unhappy. In every school in the land, on every street there are the bullies. They are a plague that young people could best do without, for they cause indescribable misery for tens of thousands of children every day and was listed in the survey as a significant cause of unhappiness in today’s children.

1950 - Playing Cowboys and Indians

Its a hard life being a child these days. In my day it was all about playing and generally having fun, but today its more about ‘keeping up with the Jones’s’, trying to please your friends, and getting the latest smartphone first so as to become the centre of attraction (if only for a short while) . Times have changed and so have a child’s priorities.

Let's Make Them All Happy

The most important thing any child needs in life is a loving family, a safe and positive environment, the right conditions for them to learn and grow, and self-respect. Given these things any child will grow to be a happy, self-assured and thoughtful adult. All we have to do is provide them with these things!!!!  Good Luck!

Roy.

Barking Mad Celeb’s (and they are not alone!)

Posted in Child Abuse, Children, Insanity, Modern World, Parenting, Teens with tags , , , , , , on 13/07/2010 by floroy1942

What’s in a name? Quite a lot actually, especially if its a christian name. I read an article about some of the ridiculous christian names given to the off-spring of some of the world’s celebrities and couldn’t help but laugh, mingled with a deep sorrow for the child concerned.

The Geldorf Family

It would seem today that parents are becoming more stupid and thoughtless when naming their children with (in the case of celebrities) nothing more in mind than to generate some free publicity, and an insane desire to be ‘Different’. They do not seem to realise that a child given a stupid senseless christian name will carry it for the rest of their lives, and many will grow to resent their parents thoughtlessness.

Katie Price Vision of Princess Tiaamii

True, that some names sound attractive for a cuddly baby, but what they seem to forget is that eventually these babies will grow to be adults. I can well imagine a serious number of raised eyebrows by clergy performing the Baptism.

Paula Yates and Bob Geldof are a prime example of this mindless stupidity when they named their children Fifi Trixibell, Peaches and Pixie.  Another prime example from Paula Yates, this time with a child by Michael Hutchence who called her baby Heavenly Hiraani Tiger Lily.

The Zappa's with Moon Unit.

It has been suggested that Frank Zappa was drunk when he named his children Moon Unit, Dweezil and Diva Muffin.

Can you even begin to understand how these children will feel as they grown up. I can well imagine their time in school will be hell on earth with christian names like these. We all know how terribly cruel and vicious children can be, and any child with a ridiculous christian name will a target for the worst of them.

Mel B With Phoenix Chi

How is a child with a name like Fifi Trixibell, Moon Unit, Satchel (Spike Lee), Phoenix Chi (Mel B), Apple (Gwyneth Paltrow), Auralius Cy (Ellie Macpherson) or  Princess Tiaamii (Katie Price and Peter Andre) supposed to develop properly when they are the laughing stock of everyone around them.

Shannyn With Audio Science

It beggars belief that according to reports, Shannyn Soosamon named her child Audio Science! Which planet does she live on !!!

Personally I do not subscribe to this “I need to be different” culture of today. New names come and go and that is not a bad thing, but parents need to think hard before they give their children a christian name. As a new parent you have to ask yourself one basic question; As 15 year-old or even a 40 year-old, would you really want to be known to your friends as Audio Science, Moon Unit or Fifi Trixibell?

Think people, before you condemn your child to a life of purgatory!!!

Roy.


Are You Doing Your Best For Your Child?

Posted in Child Abuse, Child Discipline, Children, Human Rights, Modern World, Parenting, Relationships, Teen Violence, Teens, UK with tags , , , , , , , , on 24/06/2010 by floroy1942

So you think you know how to bring up your children and what is best for them. Right? Sorry, but the state of the world today dictates otherwise for many. All is not lost however, a group of researchers in Utah have dramatically discovered what is wrong today.

Is This Your Child?

Even a superficial look at the figures for teenage crime, violence and drunkenness in many western countries will prove the current ‘softly, softly’ approach to bringing up a child is way off the mark. So how have we developed as a species to the extent where a lot of parents are afraid of their own offspring?

Many parents today will readily admit they have no control over their children so you have to ask, what has changed? What cataclysmic event allowed our children to change from being obedient, considerate and respectful into monsters to be feared?

A Child of Today

The answer in my opinion is two-fold. On the one hand we have a distinct lack of discipline in the home and schools brought about by the interfering ‘nanny’ state, and secondly, the steady erosion of family life within the home over the last forty years.

The 'Hoodies'

Ever since the first Anti-Smacking Law was presented to the New Zealand Parliament in 1961 to combat escalating abuse against children, and in particular the last 20 years when various other nations have also applied such laws, teenage violence, drunkenness, and crime have escalated to such proportions that in many countries people will take an alternate route rather than pass a pair of youths hanging around on a street corner.

The researchers, from Brigham Young University in Utah USA, found that children with “a strict and loving upbringing” were more likely to grow into honest, responsible and respectful youth than those with (a) little or no discipline, and (b) excessive or little love. Their findings indicate that too much love or discipline, or too much of one and not the other, can be detrimental to the way children view life and behave as teenagers. Obviously, the trick is to find the right balance.

What I find so amazing is they have ‘re-discovered’ a formula that has been working for centuries prior to the mad last half of the twentieth century!

Children of the 1950's

I was born in 1942 and know all there is about discipline as a child and I continued with bringing up my two children in the same strict way. Neither one has ever been in trouble, never taken to drink as a substitute for enjoyment and are now respectable grown-ups.

Any comparison between the old and new ways of bringing up children reveals quite simply the new ways don’t work, and are the reason we are in this mess today with our youth. I have for years advocated that all this crap about anti-smacking is just that; Crap!

As I said to friends of ours who had a baby boy about eighteen months ago, they must ensure the child knows who is boss right from the cradle. Not doing so can lead to a life of misery for both parents. For the first ten months or so, both parents got very little sleep each night because the baby would wake at all hours crying and wanting attention, so they stayed, sometimes for several hours, until it fell into an exhausted sleep.

In this way the baby became dominant in the household and for a long time he would squawk for attention any time he felt like it and mummy or daddy would come running. Since then, if the child wants something and doesn’t get it there follows a fit of pure temper until the parents gave in.

Violent Children

Once a child has asserted its supremacy there can follow years of misery for the parents, who may try and gain control, but it’s an uphill battle and almost impossible to achieve.

As in days gone by, and as the research team have recently ‘discovered’ (tongue in cheek), a strict disciplined upbringing and shows of love and caring are essential for the future well-being of any child. It is imperative children are taught from the beginning that the parents are the boss, and they should do as they are told. Without this approach, any child will get the feeling that they can do as they please, and life owes them everything for free! Much as many children and teenagers think today.

In supermarkets everywhere we hear cries of; “I want… – I want…” and so often the reply is “Oh alright” just for the sake of keeping the peace for one more precious minute.

Temper

Currently, most children have no idea what ‘No!’ means, for they are fully aware that if they pester their parents for long enough, or throw a tantrum, they will eventually get what they want. A sad indictment of parental control today.

The days when you could properly discipline your child for wrong-doing are sadly long gone, as is evident from occasional news stories that highlight cases where a mother has had her children taken away from her by Social Services, for nothing more than giving a recalcitrant child a smack on the leg or hand for being naughty in public. These stupid laws should be repealed immediately, for the simple reason you cannot expect any child to follow the right path if no-one is allowed to tell them what it is.

The Horror of Child Abuse

Don’t for minute think that I condone child cruelty, for I do not, and anyone found committing such an act should be severely punished to the full extent of the law, but there is a wide chasm between such things and the smacking of an undisciplined child.

Yes, I hear some say, but where do we draw the line? For these simple-minded people who need to be told; the line not to be crossed is that of leaving a bruise, breaking a bone, or breaking the skin and thereby causing bleeding. All of these are a long way from giving your child an open-handed smack on the legs, hands or buttocks.

Earlier I also said the loss of the ‘family unit’ has been a contributing factor in the failings of youth these days, and I meant it.

Who's Looking After Your Child?

Since WW2, and the advent of women going out to work for a living, family life has all but ceased to exist. The children are rushed off to school or left in the care of child-minders or crèche centres and never get to see their parents again until they come home tired from a long day’s work. Perhaps, if they are lucky, a couple of hours television and then off to bed to start the whole process over again the next day.

This is not family life for a child!

A Family Day Out

A child needs to know it is loved, needs to have someone there to tell it when it’s doing something wrong. As a parent, you can love your child to bits, but it all means nothing if one of you is not there to welcome them home from school and listen while they tell you about their day. If they hurt themselves while out playing, they need to know someone is at home and will kiss it better, not have to wait until five o’clock when mummy or daddy comes home from work.

It all comes down to one basic fact that is more often than not overlooked in today’s society, Having a child is a responsibility for life! Any couple who decide to have a child must make the conscious decision that someone needs to be at home all the time if you are to be responsible parents and raise responsible children. You can’t have it both ways!

Roy.

To Smack or Not to Smack!

Posted in Child Abuse, Children with tags , , , , on 31/07/2009 by floroy1942

Is it right for parents to give their children a smack now and again as a form of discipline? There are many proponents for and against, and who is to say one or the other is right. We all have our own opinions.

Personally, I am for this form of punishment for wayward children, and I believe I have tradition, and the child’s well-being, on my side.

First let me make quite clear that I am not in favour of any form of child abuse, and those guilty of such things should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. However, having said that, I think discipline is essential for a child’s proper development into a responsible adult.

If you walk the streets of any town or city today, you see the youth doing as they please with no regard or respect for their fellow human beings. Hanging around on street corners in an often threatening manner, getting involved with crime, drugs, alcohol and general mayhem.

This is a sign of our times, and in my humble opinion, is a direct result of poor parenting, coupled with stupid laws that have criminalised the smacking of children since Sweden first introduced the law in 1979, followed by others in later years. For the last 20-30 years, these laws have forbidden any form of ‘hands-on’ punishment for misdemeanors by children.

Parents have lost all control over their offspring, and it must be admitted, some have used these laws as an excuse not to get involved in their upbringing, or have given up any hope of disciplining their children.

There are of course other factors that have been a great influence on the attitudes of children today, chief among them the total disintegration of ‘family life’. This however I will save for another time.

You only have to watch a family in a supermarket to see how much actual control parents have over their children. I have seen countless children told to stop doing something in particular by mummy or daddy, only for the child to show total disregard for them and continue what it was doing.

You could be forgiven for thinking I am talking through my hat, but I have had two children of my own and made sure I brought them up in the traditional way.

As a child, I was often given a slap when I did something wrong or didn’t listen to what I was told. In school I had the slipper or cane from my teacher or headmaster for misdemeanors on many occasions. None of this did me any harm, but it did teach me to respect property, laws and rules, and of course, my elders, even if I don’t have many ‘elders’ at my time of life.

The main point of it all was that it disciplined me to have respect for those things I should respect, and that is what is missing in today’s society!

With the failure of proper parenting, and the law forbidding the most basic and effective means of punishing a child, it has has gotten so far out of hand, that sad to say, I see no going back.

Any child that grows up without any form of discipline becomes what I would call a ‘rogue’ element, and we see them daily on our streets today.

I am thankful, and I must admit, proud, that my two children have grown up to be hard working, respectable citizens, and have never ‘gone off the rails’ like the majority do today. They have never been in trouble, and never turned to drugs or alcohol to fill the gaping void so many of today’s young people seem to live with.

I always had a simple method. They knew that I would tell them once, remind them once, but if I had to tell them a third time they would get a slap on the legs or buttocks. They got the picture in a very short time, and after making my point once or twice, I very rarely had to resort to such methods again. The ground rules had been laid down at a very early age and they knew what to expect if they didn’t do as they were told. As with me, it did them no harm, and this has been proved by their attitude now they are grown.

The news article that prompted this blog describes a referendum that is to be held in New Zealand on whether to continue the ‘No Smacking’ laws of that country.

The crazy thing is, the reason for the referendum is not the lack of parental control or discipline, or a general breakdown in respect among children, but whether or not it would affect the number of parents who are investigated for child abuse, but use ‘discipline’ as an excuse for escaping prosecution. In other words, it misses the point completely.

Quite possibly New Zealand does not yet suffer from the child and teenage problems that we have in the northern hemisphere. The law was only passed in 2007 so it will take a few more years before the lack of parental control manifests itself in child behavioral attitudes. By then of course it will be too late, as it is here.

Proponents of the anti-smacking law say ‘positive, non-violent parenting’ is more effective, however, it is clear the children themselves have not read the book, because they see it as an opportunity to do as they please, knowing full well their parents can do nothing about it.

It cannot be denied that children in countries having this law have become less obedient, less respectful, and more violent, as a result of the lack of discipline during their formative years, and I dare anyone to prove different.


A Smack in Time Saves Nine????


Roy.

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