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When Fun Turns Evil

Posted in America, Britain, Child Discipline, Demonstration, England, Modern World, News, Parenting, Police, Teen Violence with tags , , , , on 31/08/2016 by floroy1942

Carnaval Notting HillIt seems people cannot go out and have a little fun these days without someone causing trouble. Last weekend was the Notting Hill Carnival to celebrate the Caribbean Culture in Britain, but as usual, somebody started causing trouble. Whenever there is a celebration or peaceful demonstration in Britain there is always someone who thinks it is an excuse to cause mayhem. What is wrong with these people?

Police Deal With An Incident

Police Deal With An Incident

During the Notting Hill celebrations 454 people were arrested on charges that included drug possession, carrying knives, assault, sexual offences and theft. During the Carnival  a 15-year-old boy was stabbed in Wornington Road on Sunday. His injuries were critical but are now non-life threatening. A 14-year-old boy was arrested. Three other males, aged 15 to 20, were also wounded in knife attacks on the opening day of the festival.

Medics were on hand to administer help to those who were injured or unwell from alcohol or drugs. Medical beds were even deployed at roadsides in some locations. Ambulance and first aid crews treated more than 1,000 people, mostly for alcohol-related injuries, 77 of whom needed to be hospitalized.

Arrest Of A Suspect

Arrest Of A Suspect

Ken Marsh, chairman of the Metropolitan Police Federation, said “A seemingly growing number of people appear intent on hijacking this Carnival and turning it into a Bank Holiday battleground. The Glastonbury music festival had 40 arrests this year. Notting Hill had 10 times that amount. The organisers need to understand that this event cannot carry on regardless. I think many Londoners will wonder whether the significant amount of taxpayers’ money spent policing this event is frankly worth it.”

The carnival, founded in 1966 by West Indian immigrants following the Notting Hill race riots of 1958, frequently has involved clashes with police. Many local businesses have closed during the event since 1977, when police stormed the carnival amid looting of shops. The 2008 festivities ended in a street riot. Last year, police arrested 407 people, a record for an event where knifing’s committed by youth gangs have become a troubling trend.

In my view these same troublemakers are responsible for hi-jacking very many public events and demonstrations. I believe they are out to deliberately cause trouble, and use such gatherings as an excuse ‘to have a go’ at people and the police every time there is a gathering. This sort of thing is a cancer in Britain and it is spreading.

The Press On The G20 Riots

The Press On The G20 Riots

The country has had so many of these incidents over the past ten years, like the G20 riots in June 2010. There is without doubt a minority of youth in Britain who are looking for any excuse to cause trouble because it makes them feel good. Burning cars and buildings, attacking the police, and not forgetting looting shops.

G20 Destruction

G20 Destruction

Part of the problem is that the police always get blamed for ‘heavy handedness’  when they try to stop these attacks. It has been proven that police are provoked and when they hit back they are recorded on video camera’s or phones which is then distributed on the internet. During the G20 riots this happened in several cases, in particular with a teenage girl who deliberately baited a policeman until he smacked her across the face. She continued to bait him and eventually he hit her with his truncheon on the leg. The video went viral and the officer was suspended, all through no fault of his own.

Good Parent?

Good Parent?

Its for sure that things will never change now in Britain and the problem may get steadily worse For it is a fact that many children from poorer families in the U.K. are allowed to do as they please by their parents, because they cannot be bothered to control them and bring them up properly.

I am not saying that Britain is the only place where such things happen, but it does occur there far more than in other countries. You only have to look at the riots that took place during the last European Football Challenge to see how it is spreading.

Football In The Street

Football In The Street

It is very different from when I was a child, when people had respect for each other and children were brought up properly. We have entered an age where ‘anything goes’ and you can do what the hell you like. If you get caught, so what, you will probably only get a warning from the judge not to do it again and you will be free to carry on.

This is not what life is supposed to be about.

Roy.

Where Did We Go Wrong?

Posted in Britain, Child Discipline, England, English Schools, Immigration, Justice, News, Parenting, Prison, Teen Violence with tags , , , , on 29/10/2015 by floroy1942

Having survived 72 years on this planet I have to ask where we went wrong in the past to bring the country to the state it’s in now. I scan the news daily, and never a day goes by where I don’t read that someone somewhere has been murdered, robbed or raped, and I fail to see what has happened to the British people.

Today I read that a schoolboy had been stabbed to death by another pupil at a school in Scotland, and almost every day is the same. Pupils even stab teachers in school because for some reason they get angry.

Old people robbed while they lay desperately hurt after being struck by a hit-and-run driver. No attempt made to help them, just take their money and leave them on the street. Very often, youngsters break into an old person’s house, knife them and steal their money and valuables because they are an easy target.

Saturday Night Brawl

Saturday Night Brawl

Go into town on a saturday night and you will be lucky in many places if you don’t see young girls lying comatose on the pavement after a night of drugs and heavy drinking, and you will more than likely see a bunch of drunken youths fighting viciously outside a disco or club. More often than not they are also high on drugs.

Road rage is another symptom of modern times in that people do stupid things on the road and the offended driver gets out of his car in a vicious rage and attacks the other driver physically. It happens all across the country and it never seems to end. Why?

What has got into people these days that makes them so aggressive at what they consider the slightest of insults. Pretty soon you won’t even dare to say “Good morning” to anyone for fear they may take it the wrong way and attack you.

I know this is not a general situation for everybody, but the number of Press reports of murder and assault have gone through the roof these last ten years and there has to be a reason for it.

There are I think three reasons for the current wave of violence on our streets, one is the parents, another is the complete farce that our system of justice  has become, and finally, the breakdown of our education system.

Is This The Correct Way To Bring Up A Child?

Is This The Correct Way To Bring Up A Child?

Firstly it is a total failure of the last generation of parents to teach their offspring respect, honesty and integrity. Most are happy to have their children ‘out from under their feet’ and don’t give a damn about how they behave or what they do while away from home. All too often the child says, “I want….” and before you know it they are given it. No effort has been made to teach children the three basic values, and now we have to live with the consequences.

When I look back at my own childhood I remember getting a clip around the ear for some minor infraction, or my dad’s slipper across my backside or the cane at school for something more serious. It made me realize in time that there are rules to the way you live and I was made to abide by them. The three basic values were instilled in me and I have lived by them to this day.

All that disappeared years ago, and partly because of the ‘Goody Goody Brigade’ who convinced certain important people that to discipline a child had to be done by purely talking to them. You were not allowed to hit a child for any reason. Where did these people came from?

Parents quickly began to live by these rules, and soon children lost the one thing that allowed them to learn how they should behave and live their lives, i.e. discipline. Many of today’s youth, especially in the poorer parts of town, are nothing more than thugs going around in gangs, some no more than ten years old. They do as they please, attack innocent people just for fun, rob shops for the thrill, and the sad thing is they get away with it. Even if they are caught by the Police they are more often than not let off with a caution not to do it again, which they naturally ignore.

Ricky Preddie On His Release After Serving Just 4 Years For Killing Damilola Taylor

Ricky Preddie On His Release After Serving Just 4 Years For Killing Damilola Taylor

Our modern justice system also has a lot to answer for because they no longer give meaningful sentences to those who break the law, and this is proven by killers getting light sentences and not even having to serve their full term. Gone are the days when you were locked up for twenty or thirty years for killing someone, now they get sentenced to ten years but are out in three. It’s no wonder the system has failed in preventing such crimes.

Furthermore, our education system has failed an entire generation of young people, many of whom are leaving school without the ability to read or write properly, and as for adding two and two – forget it.

What is even more frightening is that Muslim immigrants have so much power in the country that they are slowly destroying what is left of our education system with their demands for classes in arabic because they have not taken the trouble to integrate and learn the language of their adopted country.

Muslim Family With 12 Children

Muslim Family With 12 Children

Today I read that the population of Britain will increase from its current 62.5 million to over 74 million within the next 12 years. And why? Two reasons, mainly the massive immigration into our country that is still going on, and to a very much smaller extent, the increased life expectancy of our old folks.

As many know by now, most British families restrict themselves to two children, but at the same time, Muslim families will have five, six or even more children. In a few years this will make them a very large portion of the population, and you can imagine what will happen then.

I am just glad I will not be around to see it!

Roy.

To Smack or Not to Smack – Part 2

Posted in Child Discipline with tags , , , on 21/08/2009 by floroy1942

Referring to my article ‘To Smack or Not to Smack’ dated Friday 31 July, finally the results of the New Zealand referendum on the disciplinary smacking of children is known, and the overwhelming result from the people was a resounding No!

According to preliminary results, 54% of the population voted, and of those, nearly 90% voted ‘No’ to the government curbs on child discipline in the home.

According to OECD sources, New Zealand was the third worst country for child abuse and neglect in 2002 among the OECD Nations, and to address this, the government introduced the no-smacking law in 2007.

The referendum held this year has proved the law is unwelcome in New Zealand.

It is possible many New Zealander’s read my previous blog before voting, but I doubt it. I think it was more a case of sanity prevailing.

Experience in twenty-three countries that have previously imposed a ban on the most basic of child disciplinary measures, shows in the more affluent countries that we have lost all control over our children. The behaviour of children today is ample proof of the fact they do as they please, when they please.

My wife and I were visiting a friends house recently, and the wife of another friend was there with her child. The two and a half year old child was into everything. Opening drawers, removing the contents and dropping them on the floor, and an ice cream ended up more on the wall and floor than in his mouth.

I could see that our host was getting quite upset, but could not really say anything because the woman in question was his neighbour. At some point in the wanton destruction I could not help myself, and asked her point-blank if she had any control over her son. She just shrugged her shoulders, so I replied that perhaps it was time she started. Not long afterwards she left, so I guess my words hit home.

To have such an ill-disciplined child is one thing, but to allow it to run rampant in someone else’s house I find quite intolerable!

It is not the first time I have seen children behaving like this, and I am sure it will not be the last. One thing I do know, no child will ever behave like that in my home, and I don’t care if the parents are the King and Queen of Spain.

The case stated above is indicative of the general attitude of parents today, and their total lack of interest in bringing up their children in the correct manner. If questioned about it, all they can do is make excuses for their own failure.

The referendum in New Zealand is non-binding, which means in effect the government can continue doing what it wants.

Prime Minister John Key has already stated publicly that he will not change the existing law despite the overwhelming vote. He is however putting some proposals before the Cabinet next week, so everyone waits with bated breath.

It will be a shame, not only for democracy, but for the New Zealand people in general, if he ignores the referendum result.

Little does he realise, that he holds the future of his people in his hands. On the one hand he can uphold the law, and watch future generations devolve into little more than criminal anarchy, or he can repeal it, and thereby ensure future New Zealander’s retain a sense of discipline and respect for each other that is sadly lacking here.

To me there is no contest! The another alternative could be to bring back The Stocks (see photo).


Once, twice, thrice, smack!


Roy.

To Smack or Not to Smack!

Posted in Child Abuse, Children with tags , , , , on 31/07/2009 by floroy1942

Is it right for parents to give their children a smack now and again as a form of discipline? There are many proponents for and against, and who is to say one or the other is right. We all have our own opinions.

Personally, I am for this form of punishment for wayward children, and I believe I have tradition, and the child’s well-being, on my side.

First let me make quite clear that I am not in favour of any form of child abuse, and those guilty of such things should be prosecuted to the full extent of the law. However, having said that, I think discipline is essential for a child’s proper development into a responsible adult.

If you walk the streets of any town or city today, you see the youth doing as they please with no regard or respect for their fellow human beings. Hanging around on street corners in an often threatening manner, getting involved with crime, drugs, alcohol and general mayhem.

This is a sign of our times, and in my humble opinion, is a direct result of poor parenting, coupled with stupid laws that have criminalised the smacking of children since Sweden first introduced the law in 1979, followed by others in later years. For the last 20-30 years, these laws have forbidden any form of ‘hands-on’ punishment for misdemeanors by children.

Parents have lost all control over their offspring, and it must be admitted, some have used these laws as an excuse not to get involved in their upbringing, or have given up any hope of disciplining their children.

There are of course other factors that have been a great influence on the attitudes of children today, chief among them the total disintegration of ‘family life’. This however I will save for another time.

You only have to watch a family in a supermarket to see how much actual control parents have over their children. I have seen countless children told to stop doing something in particular by mummy or daddy, only for the child to show total disregard for them and continue what it was doing.

You could be forgiven for thinking I am talking through my hat, but I have had two children of my own and made sure I brought them up in the traditional way.

As a child, I was often given a slap when I did something wrong or didn’t listen to what I was told. In school I had the slipper or cane from my teacher or headmaster for misdemeanors on many occasions. None of this did me any harm, but it did teach me to respect property, laws and rules, and of course, my elders, even if I don’t have many ‘elders’ at my time of life.

The main point of it all was that it disciplined me to have respect for those things I should respect, and that is what is missing in today’s society!

With the failure of proper parenting, and the law forbidding the most basic and effective means of punishing a child, it has has gotten so far out of hand, that sad to say, I see no going back.

Any child that grows up without any form of discipline becomes what I would call a ‘rogue’ element, and we see them daily on our streets today.

I am thankful, and I must admit, proud, that my two children have grown up to be hard working, respectable citizens, and have never ‘gone off the rails’ like the majority do today. They have never been in trouble, and never turned to drugs or alcohol to fill the gaping void so many of today’s young people seem to live with.

I always had a simple method. They knew that I would tell them once, remind them once, but if I had to tell them a third time they would get a slap on the legs or buttocks. They got the picture in a very short time, and after making my point once or twice, I very rarely had to resort to such methods again. The ground rules had been laid down at a very early age and they knew what to expect if they didn’t do as they were told. As with me, it did them no harm, and this has been proved by their attitude now they are grown.

The news article that prompted this blog describes a referendum that is to be held in New Zealand on whether to continue the ‘No Smacking’ laws of that country.

The crazy thing is, the reason for the referendum is not the lack of parental control or discipline, or a general breakdown in respect among children, but whether or not it would affect the number of parents who are investigated for child abuse, but use ‘discipline’ as an excuse for escaping prosecution. In other words, it misses the point completely.

Quite possibly New Zealand does not yet suffer from the child and teenage problems that we have in the northern hemisphere. The law was only passed in 2007 so it will take a few more years before the lack of parental control manifests itself in child behavioral attitudes. By then of course it will be too late, as it is here.

Proponents of the anti-smacking law say ‘positive, non-violent parenting’ is more effective, however, it is clear the children themselves have not read the book, because they see it as an opportunity to do as they please, knowing full well their parents can do nothing about it.

It cannot be denied that children in countries having this law have become less obedient, less respectful, and more violent, as a result of the lack of discipline during their formative years, and I dare anyone to prove different.


A Smack in Time Saves Nine????


Roy.

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