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One Up For France

Posted in Britain, Child Abuse, Child Discipline, European Union, News, Parenting, Police, Teen alcohol abuse, Teen Violence, Teens with tags , , , , on 08/03/2015 by floroy1942

It would seem that France is not bowing to pressure from the rest of Europe on an important issue. It concerns a law that was accepted by the rest of Europe but not by the French, and for that I applaud them, for they at least are showing common sense.

images (1)You may be wondering what I am on about so I’ll tell you. This post concerns France’s refusal to enforce the ‘no-smacking’ rule for children that has cascaded across the world ever since Sweden first banned it in 1979. It is now forbidden to use ‘corporal punishment’ (i.e. smack a child) in 44 countries across the world, but to date France refuses to back it. I think they have the right attitude.

I still remember the old saying: “A smack in time stops a crime” and its as true today as it ever was. During their formative years children must learn right from wrong, but few do these days. If they do not, we end up with a mess like we have today, where teenagers and young adults are the cause of a good proportion of the crime in society today, run wild whenever they feel like it, drink excessively and take to drugs.

The Statistics Tell It All

The Statistics Tell It All

It is essential to teach from a very early age what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. If you begin early enough just a light tap on the hand or buttocks is enough to teach them right from wrong. Naturally, I do not advocate ‘beating’ a child for that is over the line.

With my own children I used the prescribed method from the time they learned to walk, and a light slap on the buttocks was necessary only two or three times and they learned quickly. When my wife or I said they should not do something they stopped immediately. In later years they both conformed to the norms of teenage and adult behaviour without a problem. I am happy to say they both turned out to be exemplary adults who never turned to drink or took drugs.

People's Opinion

People’s Opinion

In contrast to this, a brother of my wife used the ‘no-smacking’ rule and his boy was such a nuisance that the family told him to leave the boy at home when he came to visit. He used the old and tried method on his second son and he was as good as gold.

When I look at the world today, I see Britain’s youth in particular, running wild on the streets especially at weekends when they all go out drinking to excess. There are fights in Disco’s and on the streets and the Police are constantly trying to stop them. We have children as young as nine or ten committing murders and many of today’s’ teenagers hang around on street corners in gangs looking for likely victims and even robbing convenience stores on the High Street. Teenage crime has gone through the roof since I was a child, in fact crime in general has escalated to levels unheard of in my time.

GoodI blame the ‘Anti-Smacking’ Laws that have all but made it impossible to teach a child discipline, honesty and respect when they need it most. This fact is most noticeable these days in the general attitude of many who think of themselves first before considering the needs of others.

It is true that in the old days some parents overstepped the limit when it came to child chastisement and were excessively brutal, but in general these were few and far between in my experience and certainly did not warrant a blanket law for everyone, but it happened and now we are stuck with the consequences.

So all things considered, I applaud the stance taken by France where normal child chastisement is allowed. I hope they continue with it and not bow to outside pressure from the E.U.

Roy.

How To Evade Responsibility

Posted in Britain, Child Discipline, Children, England, English Schools, Modern World, News, Parenting, Primary Education, Teens with tags , , , , on 26/01/2015 by floroy1942

I saw quite a revealing article in the news today that shows clearly how parents are evading responsibility for bringing up their children. In a survey of 1000 people by Waitrose, questions about respect and good manners among adults and children were put forward. Of those questioned a huge 72% said that good manners had declined in Britain today.

Wise Words

Wise Words

A total of 60% blamed the parents for this, but 70% thought that good manners should be taught in schools and requested it become part of the national curriculum.

Mark Price, Managing Director of Waitrose

Mark Price, Managing Director of Waitrose

Mark Price, managing director of Waitrose, said: “In school it used to be the teaching of the three Rs which was considered the mainstay of a good school education but as this survey shows, people would prefer the “four Rs” – reading, writing, arithmetic and respect. There’s clearly a mood for a renewed focus on teaching good manners but, rather than suggesting this has to be taken on by any particular group of people, perhaps the real answer is for all of us to take responsibility through the example we set every day?”

A spokeswoman for the National Union of Teachers said:  “Courteous and respectful behaviour in schools is essential but is as much ‘caught’ as ‘taught’ in the home as at school. The ethos of the school should encourage courteous behaviour in the playground and corridors as well as in the classroom.”

There are a surprising number of people in the U.K. today who do not even bother to say ‘please’ or ‘thank you’ which is disturbing, for the British were always known for their good manners in the past. In my day it was normal practice to give up your seat to the elderly on public transport, and thankfully there are still some who do this today.

But what I find so disturbing in this report is that so many people think good manners and respect should be taught in schools. This is totally wrong, for teaching these two essentials should come from the parents and be a natural process. To have special classes devoted to teaching good manners to children is too ludicrous for words.

The Way It Should Be

The Way It Should Be

If the parents themselves are kind, polite and well mannered the children learn it without problem, but sadly that is not true today. The fault lies with many of the current generation, for there are many extremely rude people around today.

About three years ago my wife and I were sitting in a local bar having a drink and at the next table were a family with a small child. The grandfather was playing with the child and it was screaming at a very high pitch that went through my head like a knife. I looked across at the child without saying anything and immediately the father started verbally attacking us with “What’s your effin’ problem” etc. Even when his wife joined in, again with a lot of foul language, my wife and I never said a word in reply, but he continued to insult and threaten us with violence. Finally my wife had had enough and called the police.

There was no reason for the outburst and no respect for anyone else in the bar, just a verbal attack using a lot of foul language that was extremely threatening and loud in nature. Sadly there are many such people in the U.K. these days and there are times when it makes me ashamed to be English.

Parents Who Don't Care?

Parents Who Don’t Care?

But the point of this little saga is, how can the children expect to learn respect and manners when their parents behave in such a way. These are without doubt the kind of people who will say loudly, “It’s the schools responsibility.” But they are wrong, very wrong! If you yourself behave like an animal you have to expect that your children will grow up in the same way.

An Empty Vessel

An Empty Vessel

Children are like an empty vessel when they are born, and their future personality is dependent on what you as a parent put into it as they grow. If you are a foul-mouthed thug then your sons will grow up to be just like you, but if you are a respectful and kind person they will grow up to be the same.

Good manners and respect for others is not something children learn in school, they learn from the way their parents go through life and what they are taught at home.

Instead of pushing yet another task onto our education system, modern parents should live up to their own responsibilities, for manners like many other things, must be taught from an early age.

Roy.

Does Your Child Take A Knife To School?

Posted in Britain, Child Discipline, Children, England, English Schools, News, Parenting, Primary Schools, Teen Violence, UK with tags , , , , on 29/04/2014 by floroy1942

It seems inconceivable that the British culture can so stoop to the levels where violence rules and our children are arming themselves to go to school. The number of knife and other crimes is rising steadily in the nations schools with children as young as eight being caught with an offensive weapon. A survey discovered that as many as 1000 children have been found  with weapons at school in the last three years.

Ready For School

Ready For School

These range from handguns, to air pistols, meat cleavers, axes, knives and even cutthroat razors. One child even had a taser, and you have to ask where did they get that from? From reports, many parents are complaining that schools do not do enough to stop the flow of weapons in the schools, but in my view, why should they? Those who are ultimately responsible for their child’s upbringing are the very ones who are complaining. What kind of parent allows a child to take a meat cleaver or an axe to school, let alone those with guns of various types. Their answer will be of course that they knew nothing about it, and then the big question comes: Why not?

It has been suggested that all schools have metal detectors placed at the entrances, which means we will eventually go down the same road as many schools in the USA. As a tax payer, are you prepared for the billions that would cost? The scary thing is that this survey does not cover the whole country for more than half of the police forces involved refused to release their figures. Forget not that the same situation exists in many colleges and universities in the country.

Young Girl's Also Carry Knives

Young Girl’s Also Carry Knives

You should ask yourself why children feel it necessary to take a weapon to school? The main answer is that all the other kids have one! But another over-driving factor is the fear that they may be attacked by another child. So where has all this hostility come from? We have bred a generation who refuse to obey all laws of decency and respect, simply because they were never taught to. In their world ‘it’s every teen/child for himself’. You may wonder where the violent streak in today’s teens has come from, well, you need look no further than the violent games they play on the computer for hours on end. Playing these games when not realizing they are just games often leads to a violent streak in children.

If parents had taken more time to teach their offspring how to behave, and to show respect for the laws of the land we would never have sunk so low. But as it is, many parents are more interested in being down the pub and the children can look after themselves. Many children stroll into the house at whatever time they feel like and nothing is said, no-one ever sits them down at an early age and teaches them right from wrong and how to behave. You can ask many parents at weekends, or of an evening, where their children are and they have no clue.

Killed By A Child In Her Own Classroom

Killed By A Child In Her Own Classroom

Just this week a teacher was stabbed to death by a pupil in front of the class. Anne McQuire, had served in the teaching profession for more than forty years and was due to retire in September of this year. She was much loved by those she taught, but that did not save her from a fifteen-year-old with a savage mentality. So how much further are we to go down this road.

This culture of violence has blossomed ever since uncaring parents passed on the upbringing of their children to child-minders and nursery’s, expecting them to do their job for them. Few children today have a proper upbringing because many parents do not take the trouble to teach their children right from wrong. And please Ladies, don’t give me that old excuse; “I have to go to work!” That is part of the problem, children coming home from school to an empty house with no supervision of their activities at all. Many parents today are happy if the child is watching TV or playing computer games because at least they are quiet and out from underfoot.

Young Thugs

Young Thugs

These days the newspapers are always full of children as young as eleven committing murder, especially of old folk during an attempted robbery. Because of the current laws they rarely get a proper sentence because of their age. We are breeding a generation of young thugs in many parts of the country, and one thing is certain, without someone putting a stop to it life will be hell in ten years time. Since the seventies, violent crime, even that involving children, has spiraled through the roof compared to fifty years ago. You can forget the government’s crime statistics as so much propaganda because it does not seem to include child crime which has been on the rise during the past ten years.  Do not forget, when children think they can get away with something they will go for the whole nine yards. It is time parents started taking responsibility themselves for the upbringing of their children instead of passing it on to others.

Roy.

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