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The School Debate

Posted in America, Britain, Child Discipline, Children, England, English Schools, European Union, News, Parenting, Teen Violence with tags , , , , on 15/09/2016 by floroy1942
Theresa May

Theresa May

It amazes me that so many people are up in arms about Theresa May wanting to reintroduce grammar schools. Why, what is wrong with these people? Years ago these schools were the backbone of higher education, excluding university’s of course, and they were there for the more gifted youngsters. They were a beacon for the more intelligent children who eventually got into our university’s.

Corbyn The Fool

Corbyn The Fool

From this system came our brightest scientists, industry entrepreneurs and politicians and many more. Since we no longer have proper grammar schools this has all but disappeared.

Eleven-plus Exam

Eleven-plus Exam

Britain still has 166 grammar schools but they are nothing like they used to be. We need more throughout Britain to give our children a choice in education, and an opportunity to increase their knowledge above that which is taught in secondary modern schools.

I have to say that our education system is currently a total failure, with poor teachers, classroom sizes far too big, and a total lack of discipline, all creating a generation of idiots for the most part. Naturally I do not include all children or teachers in this category. Compared to years ago, few of our children are bright enough to get to university. If we ever stopped foreign students from entering them most would close down for lack of pupils.

In Days Gone By

In Days Gone By

When I compare today’s education system with what it was like when I was a child I have to say that the entire system is a shambles. Teachers of my day knew their subject back to front and inside out. You asked a question and you got an immediate answer, whereas today many teachers must refer to the lesson material before giving an answer.

Street Thugs

Street Thugs

Discipline has gone out the window because the teacher is not allowed to take any action against an unruly pupil, except perhaps to send them out of the class. Long gone are the most effective methods of teaching a child discipline in class, and today, if any action is taken the parents will be hammering on the headmaster’s door complaining like hell. No, I’m afraid child discipline is a thing of the past, which is evident in the child and teenage thugs, thieves and killers we have in our society today. I do not blame the schools entirely for this because many parents do little to bring up their child properly.

We make no difference today between a gifted child and a fool with the current system and that is a shame. Gifted children should be given a good education to make the most of their talents in grammar schools, but they can’t currently have that when sharing a class with dunces, to use an old word.

Grammar Schools In England

Grammar Schools In England

Ever since Tony Blair had exams made easier so that he could show high pass rates  for kids the whole system has gone down the drain. Many teachers are no longer trained properly, have scant knowledge of their chosen subject and in my view are practically worthless.

If teachers were trained properly they would know their chosen subject inside out, and be able to answer any question from pupils without referring to their books. It worked years ago why not now? The answer to that is because the teachers are not trained properly, and often enter schools before they are fully qualified because of a shortage.

Could We See Another Albert Einstein?

Could We See Another Albert Einstein?

If Britain is to move forward in the current high-tech world, we have to start training our children to behave properly, learn properly and be a credit to society, not some lout always looking for a fight.

If the grammar school idea is put into practice, we have to ensure that teachers are properly qualified, and the most gifted children are allowed to attend. The 11-plus exam certainly separates the wheat from the chaff, and this is precisely what we need if this country is to move forward. We need to nurture our more brighter pupils into becoming our future leaders in science, industry and politics.

Roy.

When Fun Turns Evil

Posted in America, Britain, Child Discipline, Demonstration, England, Modern World, News, Parenting, Police, Teen Violence with tags , , , , on 31/08/2016 by floroy1942

Carnaval Notting HillIt seems people cannot go out and have a little fun these days without someone causing trouble. Last weekend was the Notting Hill Carnival to celebrate the Caribbean Culture in Britain, but as usual, somebody started causing trouble. Whenever there is a celebration or peaceful demonstration in Britain there is always someone who thinks it is an excuse to cause mayhem. What is wrong with these people?

Police Deal With An Incident

Police Deal With An Incident

During the Notting Hill celebrations 454 people were arrested on charges that included drug possession, carrying knives, assault, sexual offences and theft. During the Carnival  a 15-year-old boy was stabbed in Wornington Road on Sunday. His injuries were critical but are now non-life threatening. A 14-year-old boy was arrested. Three other males, aged 15 to 20, were also wounded in knife attacks on the opening day of the festival.

Medics were on hand to administer help to those who were injured or unwell from alcohol or drugs. Medical beds were even deployed at roadsides in some locations. Ambulance and first aid crews treated more than 1,000 people, mostly for alcohol-related injuries, 77 of whom needed to be hospitalized.

Arrest Of A Suspect

Arrest Of A Suspect

Ken Marsh, chairman of the Metropolitan Police Federation, said “A seemingly growing number of people appear intent on hijacking this Carnival and turning it into a Bank Holiday battleground. The Glastonbury music festival had 40 arrests this year. Notting Hill had 10 times that amount. The organisers need to understand that this event cannot carry on regardless. I think many Londoners will wonder whether the significant amount of taxpayers’ money spent policing this event is frankly worth it.”

The carnival, founded in 1966 by West Indian immigrants following the Notting Hill race riots of 1958, frequently has involved clashes with police. Many local businesses have closed during the event since 1977, when police stormed the carnival amid looting of shops. The 2008 festivities ended in a street riot. Last year, police arrested 407 people, a record for an event where knifing’s committed by youth gangs have become a troubling trend.

In my view these same troublemakers are responsible for hi-jacking very many public events and demonstrations. I believe they are out to deliberately cause trouble, and use such gatherings as an excuse ‘to have a go’ at people and the police every time there is a gathering. This sort of thing is a cancer in Britain and it is spreading.

The Press On The G20 Riots

The Press On The G20 Riots

The country has had so many of these incidents over the past ten years, like the G20 riots in June 2010. There is without doubt a minority of youth in Britain who are looking for any excuse to cause trouble because it makes them feel good. Burning cars and buildings, attacking the police, and not forgetting looting shops.

G20 Destruction

G20 Destruction

Part of the problem is that the police always get blamed for ‘heavy handedness’  when they try to stop these attacks. It has been proven that police are provoked and when they hit back they are recorded on video camera’s or phones which is then distributed on the internet. During the G20 riots this happened in several cases, in particular with a teenage girl who deliberately baited a policeman until he smacked her across the face. She continued to bait him and eventually he hit her with his truncheon on the leg. The video went viral and the officer was suspended, all through no fault of his own.

Good Parent?

Good Parent?

Its for sure that things will never change now in Britain and the problem may get steadily worse For it is a fact that many children from poorer families in the U.K. are allowed to do as they please by their parents, because they cannot be bothered to control them and bring them up properly.

I am not saying that Britain is the only place where such things happen, but it does occur there far more than in other countries. You only have to look at the riots that took place during the last European Football Challenge to see how it is spreading.

Football In The Street

Football In The Street

It is very different from when I was a child, when people had respect for each other and children were brought up properly. We have entered an age where ‘anything goes’ and you can do what the hell you like. If you get caught, so what, you will probably only get a warning from the judge not to do it again and you will be free to carry on.

This is not what life is supposed to be about.

Roy.

Why Is Everyone So Violent Today?

Posted in America, Britain, Child Discipline, England, European Union, Football, Justice, News, Parenting, Teen Violence with tags , , , , on 11/07/2016 by floroy1942

Apart from previous wars, the general public have never been as excessively violent as they are today. I wonder why? What is it that drives people at, for example, football matches to become so angry that we see running street battles and fans attacking each other or the police in the stadium? Something has changed in the psyche of many people today that I just fail to understand.

Fan Violence

Fan Violence

When I was young fans always respected each other, and just because their side lost didn’t mean that they would turn to violence against those who supported the winners. And yet today we hardly see a football match that doesn’t turn to fighting among fans, especially at international matches.

We have seen violent demonstrations in America where the blacks are having a go at the police because they feel that they are hard done by, and yes, I fully realize that there have been three killings of Black people in dubious circumstances in recent days. But instead of having a peaceful demonstration there is always someone who wants to turn it into a violent confrontation with the police.

We have seen the same thing in France, Germany and other European countries for a variety of reasons ranging from football to political differences. Today in Britain street violence, especially between teenagers particularly on a Friday and Saturday night in many towns and cities across the U.K., has risen out of all proportion, Why?

In my view it is because most parents do not have any control over their offspring anymore. When I was growing up my mother was always at home and always there when I needed her, but that is not true today. Most parents see their children for maybe two or three hours a day because they are both working. As a consequence, there is nobody at home to make sure the children are brought up properly, and by that I mean, being respectful of others and being honest. This makes them ‘loose cannons’ whenever they have to interact with others.

Young Murderer Kills Teacher

Young Murderer Kills Teacher

In Britain in particular we have children and teenagers who will murder an old person for the few pounds they have in their pocket, and you can’t deny this for it has happened time and again. In a previous post I relayed the news item that a young man had stolen the wallet from an accident victim who lay badly injured and then walked away and left him on the street. In my youth that would never have happened, for the person concerned would have done everything to help and not just stolen the money and walked away. Oh how times have changed!

To me it seems that we have entered an age where many people put themselves first and to hell with everyone else. Of course I do not mean those of us who still care and behave properly. Naturally I am not saying that everyone is like this, and not everyone would get into a fight because their team lost, but the numbers are growing with our youth and young people. In maybe ten years time I can see a period where complete anarchy reigns across many countries in the world, for it takes very little to get some people’s blood boiling and they take to violence.

Riots In Venezuela 2014

Riots In Venezuela 2014

The history of riots tells us that things have got much worse in the twentieth Century than they ever were before. For example, from 1900 until 1920 there were thirty riots across the entire world. From 2001 to 2010 there were 113 riots across the world, and from 2011 until now we have seen 288. It is good to remember that these are riots by the people and not just incidents at football stadiums, for many got killed during these confrontations.

Life Of Luxery

Life Of Luxury

Part of the problem is that the legal system in many countries is failing. I can only talk about Britain for that is my country, but the justice system is very weak in Britain because of the continued interference of the European Human Rights Council. It has weakened our laws to the extent that a stay in jail for a couple of years for murder is like staying at a holiday camp.

This is partly the reason why many do not fear going to jail for acts of murder, rape or just sheer brutality. In most cases those involved in street fights or at football matches couldn’t give a damn, for they know they will most likely be told in court not to misbehave anymore and are let off with a warning.

Whichever way you look at it, and whatever country you reside in, general violence is becoming more of a daily thing and it makes me wonder where it will all end.

Roy.

Where Did We Go Wrong?

Posted in Britain, Child Discipline, England, English Schools, Immigration, Justice, News, Parenting, Prison, Teen Violence with tags , , , , on 29/10/2015 by floroy1942

Having survived 72 years on this planet I have to ask where we went wrong in the past to bring the country to the state it’s in now. I scan the news daily, and never a day goes by where I don’t read that someone somewhere has been murdered, robbed or raped, and I fail to see what has happened to the British people.

Today I read that a schoolboy had been stabbed to death by another pupil at a school in Scotland, and almost every day is the same. Pupils even stab teachers in school because for some reason they get angry.

Old people robbed while they lay desperately hurt after being struck by a hit-and-run driver. No attempt made to help them, just take their money and leave them on the street. Very often, youngsters break into an old person’s house, knife them and steal their money and valuables because they are an easy target.

Saturday Night Brawl

Saturday Night Brawl

Go into town on a saturday night and you will be lucky in many places if you don’t see young girls lying comatose on the pavement after a night of drugs and heavy drinking, and you will more than likely see a bunch of drunken youths fighting viciously outside a disco or club. More often than not they are also high on drugs.

Road rage is another symptom of modern times in that people do stupid things on the road and the offended driver gets out of his car in a vicious rage and attacks the other driver physically. It happens all across the country and it never seems to end. Why?

What has got into people these days that makes them so aggressive at what they consider the slightest of insults. Pretty soon you won’t even dare to say “Good morning” to anyone for fear they may take it the wrong way and attack you.

I know this is not a general situation for everybody, but the number of Press reports of murder and assault have gone through the roof these last ten years and there has to be a reason for it.

There are I think three reasons for the current wave of violence on our streets, one is the parents, another is the complete farce that our system of justice  has become, and finally, the breakdown of our education system.

Is This The Correct Way To Bring Up A Child?

Is This The Correct Way To Bring Up A Child?

Firstly it is a total failure of the last generation of parents to teach their offspring respect, honesty and integrity. Most are happy to have their children ‘out from under their feet’ and don’t give a damn about how they behave or what they do while away from home. All too often the child says, “I want….” and before you know it they are given it. No effort has been made to teach children the three basic values, and now we have to live with the consequences.

When I look back at my own childhood I remember getting a clip around the ear for some minor infraction, or my dad’s slipper across my backside or the cane at school for something more serious. It made me realize in time that there are rules to the way you live and I was made to abide by them. The three basic values were instilled in me and I have lived by them to this day.

All that disappeared years ago, and partly because of the ‘Goody Goody Brigade’ who convinced certain important people that to discipline a child had to be done by purely talking to them. You were not allowed to hit a child for any reason. Where did these people came from?

Parents quickly began to live by these rules, and soon children lost the one thing that allowed them to learn how they should behave and live their lives, i.e. discipline. Many of today’s youth, especially in the poorer parts of town, are nothing more than thugs going around in gangs, some no more than ten years old. They do as they please, attack innocent people just for fun, rob shops for the thrill, and the sad thing is they get away with it. Even if they are caught by the Police they are more often than not let off with a caution not to do it again, which they naturally ignore.

Ricky Preddie On His Release After Serving Just 4 Years For Killing Damilola Taylor

Ricky Preddie On His Release After Serving Just 4 Years For Killing Damilola Taylor

Our modern justice system also has a lot to answer for because they no longer give meaningful sentences to those who break the law, and this is proven by killers getting light sentences and not even having to serve their full term. Gone are the days when you were locked up for twenty or thirty years for killing someone, now they get sentenced to ten years but are out in three. It’s no wonder the system has failed in preventing such crimes.

Furthermore, our education system has failed an entire generation of young people, many of whom are leaving school without the ability to read or write properly, and as for adding two and two – forget it.

What is even more frightening is that Muslim immigrants have so much power in the country that they are slowly destroying what is left of our education system with their demands for classes in arabic because they have not taken the trouble to integrate and learn the language of their adopted country.

Muslim Family With 12 Children

Muslim Family With 12 Children

Today I read that the population of Britain will increase from its current 62.5 million to over 74 million within the next 12 years. And why? Two reasons, mainly the massive immigration into our country that is still going on, and to a very much smaller extent, the increased life expectancy of our old folks.

As many know by now, most British families restrict themselves to two children, but at the same time, Muslim families will have five, six or even more children. In a few years this will make them a very large portion of the population, and you can imagine what will happen then.

I am just glad I will not be around to see it!

Roy.

The UN Human Rights Committee Should Mind It’s Own Bloody Business

Posted in America, Britain, Child Abuse, Child Discipline, European Union, News, Parenting, Teen alcohol abuse, Teen Violence, Teens with tags , , , , on 25/07/2015 by floroy1942

I was angered yesterday when I read that the U.N. HRC is telling the British Government to ban all smacking of children as a form of discipline. The commission was ‘surprised’ to hear that corporal punishment had not already been banned in the country.

UNHRCThe report says,”The state party should take practical steps, including through legislative measures where appropriate, to put an end to corporal punishment in all settings, including the home, throughout (the) United Kingdom. It should encourage non-violent forms of discipline as alternatives to corporal punishment, and conduct public information campaigns to raise awareness about its harmful effects.”

Are these people living on the same planet as the rest of us? I would like to know what forms of ‘none violent’ punishments they think will work with todays British children.

So UNHRC! How Do You Handle This Little Devil?

So UNHRC! How Do You Handle This Little Devil?

In Britain these days if you tell a child not to do something they take no notice, or in many cases tell you to ‘F’ off! So what are you supposed to do in such a situation? Tie them to a chair and lecture them on good manners and doing as they are told? Don’t make me laugh! I rather think that many of the idiots who come out with this garbage don’t have any children themselves, or if they do, they are brought up by a Nanny because the parents are too busy pontificating to do it themselves.

It is a totally different scenario from when I was a child in the forties. Children in general were well-behaved, they were respectful, honest and did as they were told by their parents because they knew that if they didn’t they would get a smack. Very few got into trouble with the law, and if they did it was for silly things that kids do as a prank.

It is a sad fact that we currently have a ‘lost’ generation of teens and young people who really do not know where they fit in in society because they have not been brought up correctly. Very often, if you want to know where your child is today, go to their room and you will find them in front of the computer or on their smart phone trading nonsense with others on Facebook or the like.

Kids Playing In The 1950's

Kids Playing In The 1950’s

What happened to the days when young kids went out to play with others instead of just lounging around?

These days, everywhere you look you will see youth on their phone, walking down the street or at a table in a cafe. But, take away this essential apparatus and they wander like mindless sheep not knowing where to go or what to do. In our local shopping centre I have lost count of the number of people who have almost walked straight into me because their whole concentration was on texting someone on the phone.

 On The Booze Already?

Nine Or Ten Years Old On The Booze Already?

Today many of the teens and youngsters are totally out of control, depending on drugs and/or alcohol for enjoyment. Some are extremely violent, fight on the streets, steal anything they can, and kill without remorse, so you try chastising them with words!

The British crime rate for those under thirty is the highest anywhere in Europe, and this includes rape, robbery and murder! Never in the history of this country has there been so many brutal killings, murders and rapes every year, a few carried out by young children, and many by teenagers.

In One Ear And Out The Other

In One Ear And Out The Other

So why do you think this is? Could it be that we have not sat our children down often enough and given them a good talking to on discipline as the UNHRC suggests, or could it be that children have quickly become aware that we can do next to nothing against them if they do wrong because of the anti-smacking laws. You work it out!

You cannot get away from the fact that if you wish to have a well-behaved child who turns into a responsible and hard-working adult you need discipline at a very early age. You can tell a child a hundred times and they will take no notice, but one small slap on the behind or back of the leg and they get the idea immediately. This system has worked for centuries, but now suddenly its a No! No!

I freely admit that in the past there have been parents who have gone over the limit with chastisement and have been excessively cruel to their children, but that is not a good enough reason to ban it altogether. Every day there are car accidents – should we therefore ban all cars??? No of course not, common sense has to prevail. Wherever there are cases of child abuse go after the perpetrators but don’t ban all forms of discipline!

On The Times I had It At School, It Stung For A Short Time But NEVER Did Me Any Harm.

On The Times I Had It At School, It Stung For A Short Time But NEVER Did Me Any Harm.

During my childhood I had the cane from the Headmaster a couple of times, and my step-dad gave me the slipper across the backside a good few times for misdemeanors. It did me no harm, but taught me never to do it again.

Later in life when I brought up my own son and daughter I used proper discipline from very early on. In the beginning I found with my daughter for example that a very light slap on her leg and a stern look was enough to warn her not to do something. By the time she was three I never had the need to touch her. If I told her not to do something she didn’t because she knew I meant what I said. My son took a little longer, (boy’s will be boy’s) but with a few light slaps to the legs he did as he was told.

I am happy to say they both grew up to be exemplary adults, and never got into trouble or did drugs or alcohol.

My wife and I started with them very young and they quickly learned to do as they were told without fuss, and most importantly, without resorting to any violence. It is essential to start as soon as they are able to understand, but keep the punishments very mild. They will learn very quickly and then a warning look is all that is needed.

Heed The Message

Heed The Message

This business of sitting your child down in front of you and having a conversation with them about what they have done wrong is pure rubbish. There is only one system that makes the necessary impression on a child’s mind and that is a slap on the leg or behind. When they actually feel it the message goes home. Anything else is a waste of time.

I am however deeply against those who go too far with children. I believe that those who go beyond a mild slap should be punished to the full extent of the law. There is no excuse to brutalize children for whatever reason.

These namby pamby do-gooders need to know the value of proper discipline with children to ensure they grow up to be worthwhile members of society, and not clogging up our prison system.

Roy.

Raising A Generation Of Whimps!

Posted in America, Britain, Child Discipline, Children, English Schools, Modern World, News, Teen alcohol abuse, Teens, UK with tags , , , , on 07/06/2015 by floroy1942
Cheltenham Ladies' College

Cheltenham Ladies’ College

I could hardly believe what I was reading when a news report said that Cheltenham Ladies’ College, a girls school in Cheltenham, was considering dropping homework for students over the next five years because it was causing them depression. Instead they would get weekly meditation classes.

I have always maintained that if you pay proper attention in school, instead of, for example, writing text messages under the desk, you will learn all you need to learn. But, I do have to say that teachers today leave a lot to be desired in their methods. In my day, if you didn’t understand something you held up your hand and the teacher would explain until it was as clear as glass. Nowadays, many teachers don’t take the time to explain things to those pupils who don’t fully understand, and that is presuming they know enough about their subject to be able to.

Sir Anthony Seldon, Headmaster At Wellington College In Berkshire

Sir Anthony Seldon, Headmaster At Wellington College In Berkshire

Sir Anthony Seldon, headmaster at Wellington College in Berkshire, said in an interview that “mental health is a massive problem in Britain in schools and universities”. He said it was good the school was doing something about the problem, but doubted if banishing homework was the answer. He went on, “Life is stressful. Adult life is stressful, so unless we teach them to cope with that we’re not going to prepare them to cope in the adult world. That’s what schools are about – helping children learn to become adults, to learn to take responsibility themselves, rather than pampering young people.” Oh how right you are Sir!

Many people today are unable to handle even a little stress, and that is mostly due to their upbringing, or more likely, lack of it. Most children today are spoiled rotten by their parents, but when they get introduced to life’s problems they have no clue on how to handle it, and before anyone mentions it, I know there are exceptions, but the majority of youth can’t handle real life when they grow up because they have not been shown how to.

Depression

Depression

The main problem with kids today is that they get everything handed to them on a plate. When they cannot get what they want, like a laptop or the latest mobile phone they sulk and get depressed. Most often they cry  “All my friends have one. Why can’t I?” This philosophy has many drawbacks, for firstly it does not teach them the value of anything, and secondly can cause the deep depression that so often leads to drugs, and/or alcohol abuse.

Headteacher Eve Jardine-Young of the Cheltenham School said the average age at which depression was first diagnosed had fallen from 29 in the 1960s to 15-and-a-half early this century. She said, “What we’ve been reflecting on a lot in the last few years are the big national trends and international trends in the worsening states of adolescent mental health. We’ve created this epidemic of anxiety for ourselves as a society, and if our obligation as educators is to try to the best of our ability to set young people up as best we can for whatever the future may hold, then to ignore this whole area or to trivialize it is really irresponsible.”

This Is No Way To Escape Facing Real Life

Binge-Drinking – This Is No Way To Escape Facing Real Life

Personally, I doubt that stopping homework is going to cure the problem, for all it will do is make these youngsters less likely to use their brains and increase their desire for ‘an easy life’. Young people today have no idea whatsoever of what they will have to face when they eventually leave school and have to work for a living.

This is one reason for the drug epidemic we have today. Instead of having the mental strength to face what life throws at us they turn to the only escape they know, drugs, or in many other cases, alcohol. Go through many towns and cities in Britain on a Friday or Saturday night, and you will find many teens comatose on the pavement or getting into a fight on the streets. For them alcohol is an escape from the problems of living in today’s society, but in the long term it does not help.

Teachers Need To Interact More With Their Pupils

Teachers Need To Interact More With Their Pupils

As a parent it is your responsibility to educate your children in such a way that they can understand that life does not hand them everything they wish for. Naturally the schools are part of this process, for children need to know that they must work hard to get what they want, and it begins with a good education. Teachers must be able to spot those having trouble with the lesson material and do all they can to make them understand.

If the children/teenagers are getting depressed because they cannot handle homework then the answer is not to stop it, but to make them understand that it is an essential part of their education. It will make them think, and use their brains to come up with the correct answers.

Life As A Teen Is One Big Party - But Wait Until The Crunch Comes!

Life As A Teen Is One Big Party – But Wait Until The Crunch Comes!

If I went to work and was feeling somewhat depressed I would not expect my boss to say, “It’s OK Roy. Take a couple of days off until you feel better!” Ha! Fat chance of that happening. Life today is full of pitfalls and traps that can cause people to feel insecure, but you must have the mental strength to overcome these problems and move on. Something today’s generation seems to be lacking.

The sad thing is, as we move forward in time and these youngsters have children of their own, the problem will get even worse because they will have no idea on how to handle such a situation with their own children because their parents let them down.

It's Time For Parents To Take An Active Interest In Their Children

It’s Time For Parents To Take An Active Interest In Their Children

If you wish to bring a new life into the world then you must be prepared to guide them as they grow up, and teach them that life is not the proverbial ‘bowl of cherries’ by preparing them for the hardships of becoming an adult. Teach them to recognize right from wrong, teach them that to get anywhere in today’s world you must have knowledge and be ready to work hard. Most of all, teach them that drugs and alcohol are not an escape from life’s problems.

I think that unless something drastic is done to educate our children in the correct way, and prepare them properly for adulthood, we are headed for major problems in the future. May God help us all.

Roy.

One Up For France

Posted in Britain, Child Abuse, Child Discipline, European Union, News, Parenting, Police, Teen alcohol abuse, Teen Violence, Teens with tags , , , , on 08/03/2015 by floroy1942

It would seem that France is not bowing to pressure from the rest of Europe on an important issue. It concerns a law that was accepted by the rest of Europe but not by the French, and for that I applaud them, for they at least are showing common sense.

images (1)You may be wondering what I am on about so I’ll tell you. This post concerns France’s refusal to enforce the ‘no-smacking’ rule for children that has cascaded across the world ever since Sweden first banned it in 1979. It is now forbidden to use ‘corporal punishment’ (i.e. smack a child) in 44 countries across the world, but to date France refuses to back it. I think they have the right attitude.

I still remember the old saying: “A smack in time stops a crime” and its as true today as it ever was. During their formative years children must learn right from wrong, but few do these days. If they do not, we end up with a mess like we have today, where teenagers and young adults are the cause of a good proportion of the crime in society today, run wild whenever they feel like it, drink excessively and take to drugs.

The Statistics Tell It All

The Statistics Tell It All

It is essential to teach from a very early age what is acceptable behaviour and what is not. If you begin early enough just a light tap on the hand or buttocks is enough to teach them right from wrong. Naturally, I do not advocate ‘beating’ a child for that is over the line.

With my own children I used the prescribed method from the time they learned to walk, and a light slap on the buttocks was necessary only two or three times and they learned quickly. When my wife or I said they should not do something they stopped immediately. In later years they both conformed to the norms of teenage and adult behaviour without a problem. I am happy to say they both turned out to be exemplary adults who never turned to drink or took drugs.

People's Opinion

People’s Opinion

In contrast to this, a brother of my wife used the ‘no-smacking’ rule and his boy was such a nuisance that the family told him to leave the boy at home when he came to visit. He used the old and tried method on his second son and he was as good as gold.

When I look at the world today, I see Britain’s youth in particular, running wild on the streets especially at weekends when they all go out drinking to excess. There are fights in Disco’s and on the streets and the Police are constantly trying to stop them. We have children as young as nine or ten committing murders and many of today’s’ teenagers hang around on street corners in gangs looking for likely victims and even robbing convenience stores on the High Street. Teenage crime has gone through the roof since I was a child, in fact crime in general has escalated to levels unheard of in my time.

GoodI blame the ‘Anti-Smacking’ Laws that have all but made it impossible to teach a child discipline, honesty and respect when they need it most. This fact is most noticeable these days in the general attitude of many who think of themselves first before considering the needs of others.

It is true that in the old days some parents overstepped the limit when it came to child chastisement and were excessively brutal, but in general these were few and far between in my experience and certainly did not warrant a blanket law for everyone, but it happened and now we are stuck with the consequences.

So all things considered, I applaud the stance taken by France where normal child chastisement is allowed. I hope they continue with it and not bow to outside pressure from the E.U.

Roy.

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