The Science Of Child Spanking

Scientists are losing touch with reality, that’s my opinion of today’s report on research published in the autumn 2012 Journal of Family and Marriage by researchers Andrea Gromoske and Kathryn Maguire-Jack into the psychological effects of spanking recalcitrant children.

Child Temper Tantrum

Child Temper Tantrum

The researchers believe that giving a very young child a smack across the bottom when they are naughty will make them more aggressive around age three, and lead to depression at age five. What a load of hogwash! I have never subscribed to the belief that you should not smack your children when they misbehave and I never will. At the age they are talking about a light smack is all that’s required to get the message home. It should never be necessary to give a small child a walloping on the backside because I believe that is bordering on child abuse.

Naturally Kids Are Against It

Naturally Kids Are Against It

Over the past thirty years, parents have been told they should never smack their children by people who are ‘in the know’, and look what has happened in the world. These ‘do-gooders’ have forced their opinions onto everyone and had laws put in place that actually forbid you giving your child a smack when they misbehave. Instead you are supposed to use psychology on children and tell them what they did is wrong and they should not do it again, but if they ignore you as most do, what then?

No Discipline

No Discipline

When this idea first gained a foothold in the seventies one of my brothers-in -law at the time used this approach with his first born son. He turned out to be a right little B&*T+*D and many of the family told him to leave the child at home if he came to visit. As you would expect, with his second child everything changed and he turned out well!

Binge Drinking Be-gets Violence

Binge Drinking Be-gets Violence

Many of today’s teenagers, are extremely aggressive, have little or no respect for anyone or anything, ‘binge drink’ and more often than not take drugs as a way out because they are unable to handle the normal stresses and strains of life. Many wonder why!

People have forgotten the basic fact that baby’s are like a blank slate and everything they learn comes from us, their parents. It is up to us to teach them the essentials in life like respect for others and the law, honesty, reliability, disappointment, and the basic ability to shoulder the many ups and downs of life in general.

Your Child?

Your Child?

The massive failure of parents over the last thirty years has led us to today where many teenagers turn to drugs as an escape from life’s troubles, get into gangs, steal, and in general look for an excuse to ‘have-a-go’ at the police as is witnessed regularly by rioting teens. In my opinion, any parent who really cares about their children would make the effort to teach them right from wrong at every opportunity. If as a parent you are not ready to do this, you don’t deserve to have children.

The trouble is, it often takes a smack across the backside to enforce the message, and this is what the scientists are saying is making very young children aggressive, and turning 5-7 year-olds into depressives. Poppycock!

Old Style Discipline - And It Worked!

Old Style Discipline – And It Worked!

Parents have been using this form of discipline for centuries and it has worked ninety-nine times out of a hundred without children having the symptoms these researchers describe. When a young child starts to get aggressive this must be got out of them at the first sign in the firmest way. They have to learn from a very early age that aggression is not the way to get what they want. That is why you have to be strict with children from the very beginning, for then they learn quickly and it no longer becomes necessary to repeat a chastisement. Given the opportunity, all children will get aggressive if they think they can gain by it – it’s human nature after all.

Embarrassing?

Embarrassing?

In countless supermarkets I have seen many young children throw a tantrum because they want a bag of crisps or sweets off the shelf and mother doesn’t want to give it to them. More often than not, as the child screams and shouts, she cannot be bothered to stand her ground and gives way. Naturally, the child learns that if they throw a tantrum they can get what they want and the seed is sown. Here a soft smack on the back of the hand or leg makes the point that they cannot have what they want when they want it and they should behave. Shouting at them to behave achieves nothing. But of course now we could get in trouble with the law because if you chastise your child in this way in public, there is always some ‘holier than thou’ arsehole who thinks they know better and calls the police. The answer is to either go outside or find a quiet aisle.

All Grown Up And Ready To Face Life

All Grown Up And Ready To Face Life

When my two children were growing up they both got a few smacks across the buttocks when they wouldn’t listen and in fact I even used a slipper with my son on a couple of occasions. I only needed to chastise them in this way three or four times and after that they took notice when I told them something. I never went in for child abuse or anything even close and I abhor those that do, but I taught my children all the qualities that are required of people and I am happy to say they both turned out to be exemplary adults, honest, hard-working and respectful. You never saw my son hanging around on a street corner wearing a hood and causing trouble for passers-by.

This Approach Will Never Work On Its Own.

Don’t Waste Your Breath Madam!

So I am afraid these scientists have got it dead wrong in my opinion. I have always believed that it is essential to draw a line on what is and is not acceptable behaviour, and make children understand what they need to know to be a success in life. It’s the old saying: “If you give them an inch they will take a mile”. The kind of message that is being sent out by this ‘research’ is extremely misleading and inevitably many parents will consider it ‘The Holy Grail’ of parenting. They will find out in future years when their off-spring go off the rails.

Roy.

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