Family Breakdown And The Repercussions

According to an Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD) survey on family life, Britain is now fourth among all western nations for the breakup of marriages and in particular, partnerships. By this they mean families where a relationship has broken down and children live alone with either the mother or father, compared to children living with both parents.

On The Decline

On The Decline

Britain has just 68.9% of children living with both parents, however the country at the top of the list is Finland with a score of  95.2%. Other examples are Italy at 92.1%, Spain at 91.5%, Germany at 82%  and the US on 70.7%. The country with the lowest percentage is Latvia on 64.9%.

As you would expect, in Britain at least, this situation is also linked with an increased divorce rate, but the predominance of so-called ‘partnerships’ these days means the divorce rate is a poor guide to one-parent families. Marriage was always viewed as a union for life in the past, but increasingly over the past thirty years or so actual marriage is no longer considered necessary and couples live together and have children by mutual consent.

A New Life - But A Life Lost!

A New Life – But A Life Lost!

The problems have been exacerbated by the steady decline in morality whereby the number of teenage pregnancies has gone through the roof compared to forty years ago. The days when couples did not have sex until they were married have long gone, much to the relief of many, but it means we are seeing too many young girls left ‘holding the baby’ – literally!

In a way this is sad, for it means there is no commitment from either partner in the union. It also means there are no legal ties and either one can just walk away if they feel like it. The fact that the union has produced children is but a small consideration, especially for the one who does the walking. I have always been of the opinion that couples who just ‘live together’ are much more likely to fail than those with a marriage contract, even in these times of increasing divorce rates.

Single Mother

Single Mother

At one time the appearance of children on the scene was a positive binding agent for any marriage, and often resulted in couples becoming closer even if they had tended to drift apart a little beforehand. But now in this ‘modern age’ with its total lack of commitment, children sometimes become a problem, or in many cases just a source of income in the form of ‘Family Allowance’.

In my opinion, the slow death of religion in the country has also played its part. Whereas years ago the churches were full on Sundays, now you often find only the old folks in church. Love it or hate it, religion in British churches did promote a sense of responsibility, respect and caring in people that is lacking today. With the steady rise of agnostics in society these admirable qualities are seldom evident as people concentrate more on themselves. This has had a steady influence on partnerships and as always it is the children who suffer the most.

Becoming Unruly

Becoming Unruly

There can be no doubt that a child who loses a father or mother during a breakup go through a traumatic period that can affect them their whole lives. Many children become unruly and seldom listen to their lone parents advice for they feel let down when one parent moves out. It is hard for children to acquire a sense of responsibility when it appears to them that their parents have none.

Many of the problems suffered by children these days come not only from the fact that either their father or mother no longer live at home, but also from the need for lone parents to work in order to make ends meet.

For A Child - Traumatic

For A Child – Traumatic

I have always believed that for children to have a proper upbringing the mother should stay at home. I have seen nothing in modern life to make me change this.  The idea that you dump your small children with a stranger in a crèche for the day while you go out to work cannot possibly have a positive influence on them. Ever been in a situation where your children do not do as you tell them, ignore you completely or argue? Well, put that down to the fact you were not at home teaching them the essentials of life when they were very young. Many young mothers today seem to think “That’s the nursery or teachers job”! Well, it isn’t! All these facts combined lead to the aimless, unruly, and often violent teenagers we have on the streets today.

If this was my child he would have received a bloody good hiding!

Let us not forget that the lack of commitment to each other and the family has led to the point where the tax payer is having to subsidize broken families in the form of benefits that is costing many billions every year and climbing. Britain has a staggering 26.7% of children living with only their mother, and 450 children from every 1,000 will experience their parents breaking up before they are 16. There should be no doubt in anyone’s mind that to continue in this way will have very grave results in the future.

Roy.

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